About 2 summers ago, friends of ours borrowed a big gazebo from us to use at their son's christening party. They had set it up in the morning, then went to church for the christening and when they got back, there had been a serious gust of wind and the gazebo had come loose and was flung into the neighbour's garden. The poles of a the gazebo were now bend so could no longer be used or fixed. DH was at the christening (he's one of the godparents), they apologised profusely on the day, but he said not to worry about it that day and we'll sort something afterwards (he just didn't want to burden them with something on their son's special day). Seeing as it wasn't a cheap gazebo (cost us around £80), we did feel like they owed us something. However, we hardly ever get to see them (we invite them over quite often, but they hardly ever have time, I think we managed to see them once last year, and we still have the birthday and Christmas present from last December). So that gazebo isn't usually the first thing we think about. A few weeks ago I invited them to my birthday party which is this coming Saturday. Unfortunately, they can't make it again due to a wedding they have to go to. So I emailed her back to ask about the gazebo. She hasn't replied. DH has now been trying a few times to contact her on her home and mobile number, left a message and sent a text, but again, still no reply. The party is on Saturday and a gazebo would come in handy, but I'm finding it hard to find the extra money especially since we actually used to have the perfect one. I saw one I like, which comes in at just under £50 (so less than what we paid for the original one, it's also smaller). I would actually want them to pay for it, but how do you go about telling them that. If the same thing would have happened to us, if we had borrowed the gazebo from them, I would have made sure I paid for it asap.