I live a few houses from the beach. It is a small 3 bedroom condo with 5 others in the building. We share our bike rack and yard area with several other buildings. The same with my outside shower. My sons and all of their friends surf, and quite a few of the boys have to get rides to the island to go surfing for the day. They have pretty much called my house base for the summer. I don't mind because they are good kids, who are respectful to my neighbors. In fact my neighbors love them. So much so that some of them have also invited the boys into their house, and their is a couple above me who often let the boys hang in their unit, and they feed them.
The problem is these boys seem to have parents who pay no attention to what is going on at all. They would think nothing of dropping them at 6am and not hearing from them all day. Where did they think they were eating, going to the bathroom, showering, etc. Sometimes the boys would stay at my place overnight and the parents didn't seem to care, or necessarily even know. There have been times when I told them they couldn't sleep at my place and they would be roaming the streets at 2am, til I felt bad and brought them into my place. There were times when I got tired of it all and told them all to go home, I want my place to myself.
The problem is this group has grown. There are like 12 boys hanging here. They are here even when my sons aren't. They leave their boards on my back porch and come back to get a shower at the end of the day. I have dropped several hints now that school is starting. I want things to be very normal during the school year. Finally I told them, no you can't be here during the school year. I need my sons to take their school work seriously. If they get to surf during the school year it will be for an hour after school, if all of their homework and chores are done, and for some time on the weekends if the same is done. It will be difficult to enforce if these kids are dropped off here right after school, and can't leave if they don't have a ride. Again the kids were here today, but they had gotten my upstairs neighbor to let them stay there for the day. Aargh.
I don't know the parents of the worst offenders. I guess I will have to call them, but judging by other things, I don't think it will matter. In the middle of all this are my sons, who don't want to lose their friends, but also get sick of some of the nonsense and don't want me to be upset about it. If the boys hang upstairs with my neighbor all of my other neighbors will assume they are here with me. He is a softy and they walk all over him so if they don't clean up there stuff, or are loud I'm worried I will be getting the blame for it as I am the only one in our building with teen boys.
Any thoughts?
The problem is these boys seem to have parents who pay no attention to what is going on at all. They would think nothing of dropping them at 6am and not hearing from them all day. Where did they think they were eating, going to the bathroom, showering, etc. Sometimes the boys would stay at my place overnight and the parents didn't seem to care, or necessarily even know. There have been times when I told them they couldn't sleep at my place and they would be roaming the streets at 2am, til I felt bad and brought them into my place. There were times when I got tired of it all and told them all to go home, I want my place to myself.
The problem is this group has grown. There are like 12 boys hanging here. They are here even when my sons aren't. They leave their boards on my back porch and come back to get a shower at the end of the day. I have dropped several hints now that school is starting. I want things to be very normal during the school year. Finally I told them, no you can't be here during the school year. I need my sons to take their school work seriously. If they get to surf during the school year it will be for an hour after school, if all of their homework and chores are done, and for some time on the weekends if the same is done. It will be difficult to enforce if these kids are dropped off here right after school, and can't leave if they don't have a ride. Again the kids were here today, but they had gotten my upstairs neighbor to let them stay there for the day. Aargh.
I don't know the parents of the worst offenders. I guess I will have to call them, but judging by other things, I don't think it will matter. In the middle of all this are my sons, who don't want to lose their friends, but also get sick of some of the nonsense and don't want me to be upset about it. If the boys hang upstairs with my neighbor all of my other neighbors will assume they are here with me. He is a softy and they walk all over him so if they don't clean up there stuff, or are loud I'm worried I will be getting the blame for it as I am the only one in our building with teen boys.
Any thoughts?