robinb
DIS veteran
- Joined
- Aug 29, 1999
I am trying to tread carefully here and not flame you as requested. It seems to me that your DH's ex made it very difficult for him to be a father and 4 years ago you washed your hands of the ex. While I am sure that it was a decision that you thought long and hard over, I think that decision is the at the core of what is happening now. By pushing her away so far that you even pretend not to see her in the grocery store you pushed away the daughter too. And now you are wringing your hands over what the daughter has become without your DH's input.
My advise is to not burn your bridges with the daughter. Don't write any letters meant to make you feel better but will only widen the divide between your DH and his DD. If she actually does graduate, have your DH go to the graduation. He doesn't need to sit near the mom but he needs to be there for his daughter. Give her a graduation gift of about $100 and a nice card. If she doesn't graduate, offer to pay for her GED when she's ready.
My advise is to not burn your bridges with the daughter. Don't write any letters meant to make you feel better but will only widen the divide between your DH and his DD. If she actually does graduate, have your DH go to the graduation. He doesn't need to sit near the mom but he needs to be there for his daughter. Give her a graduation gift of about $100 and a nice card. If she doesn't graduate, offer to pay for her GED when she's ready.