So this post is inspired by the "what did you get your teen daughter for Christmas".
Another question that may be even more important for those of you in my shoes who just cant buy what you WANT to buy for your kids is, how do you make the day SPECIAL??
This is new to my kids, before my husband passed we worked together to make the "extra" it took to spoil (at least i thought they were spoiled till i read the above mentioned lists) them.
I would love some ideas of how to make Christmas without gifts special.
First, I just wanted to say I'm very sorry for your loss.
We've had a few tight years in the past so I understand how you are finding that difficult right now. Here are a few things we have done to make lean years special:
We used the "good" dishes, lit candles and played Christmas music at breakfast and dinner, and created a special menu with a favorites for everyone (not necessarily traditional christmas foods). And no need to buy fancy candles, just gather up all you can find, sheer volume can create a unique and fancy centerpiece. lol.
Drive around after dark and enjoy the Christmas lights. (Play Christmas music and maybe even bring hot chocolate or cookies.)
Make the gift giving into a game and to draw out the process when gifts are light (something like an egg hunt or a memory game or Christmas movie trivia, whatever suits the kids' ages and stages). Or just take the time to try on new clothes between gifts, play with a board game between gifts, instead of opening one gift after another...
Change your traditions a bit. One year I had an "open house" on Christmas Day. The grandparents each stopped in, some of the aunts, uncles and cousins came over. No one stayed more than a couple hours, but it filled up what may have otherwise been a very long, quiet day. I did make some chili for the crockpot, added some oyster crackers, and made lemonaid and tea in case people came at a meal time or were hungry, but most didn't eat so we had leftovers all week. The kids really enjoyed showing off their new things and seeing what the cousins had brought with them. It made the day much livlier than it would have been. And there are so many other ways you could create new traditions with no cost involved.
I know you weren't looking for inexpensive gift ideas, but I thought I'd add a few that have worked for us... like homemade gifts.
DD and I built a hat stand for DH's ball caps one year. We found scrap lumber from grandpa's barn and did the work ourselves, and only had to pay $3 for some cup hooks and $2 for spray paint. DD used some paint pens we had in the house to personalize it. Dirt cheap and dad uses it every day.
DD and I made DS a colts bed pillow from scrap felt at Joannes. A small piece of actual "colts" brand felt and plain blue felt for the back. (Maybe $8-10 total) We stuffed it with an exhisting pillow that had spiderman on it. DS loved it.
My daughter created a memory book for me. Took a binder she had leftover from school and some page covers and just filled it with items she knew I would like (the kids school awards, race medals, etc.) It took me some time to go through it page by page so it slowed the Christmas Day pace also. A very sweet idea and cost nothing.
One year we each found something broken around the house and fixed it for the other person as a gift. DD used a jewelry making kit to repair a broken necklace for me. Dad repaired a
scooter and glued together a broken trinket (the kids had forgotten about both). I finally sewed up the hole in DS's favorite t-shirt I had been putting off. DS updated an old picture frame with a collage of photos he found in a box. Just simple things. No cost involved.
Homemade bath salts from epson salts and some scented oils are cheap, easy and teen girls like those. You can get christmas scents like peppermint easily right now.
Wow, that was a lot.
But, I really hope you find a way to make this year special for both you and your kids. It's not really the gifts that make Christmas special/memorable. Almost every great memory I have from Christmas is something "other" than a gift.