Some of these posts have brought to mind the very things that made me want to keep DH around longer than 3 months.
1. He did not grovel at my feet. I seemed to attract an inordinate amount of men who would do ANYTHING to make try and make me happy....to the point of trying too dang hard. It was tooooooo much. DH treated me with respect, but he did not fawn all over me like some puppy dog. That meant I could respect him.
2. He didn't play mind games. Ever. He was, and is, incapable of it.
I never had to ask myself, "I wonder what he meant by that?" or "What is he really thinking?" He TOLD me what he meant and if he said something, then THAT was what he was thinking. When I thought about the amount of energy I could conserve and frustration I could avoid over the years by marrying someone who didn't play games, my heart jumped for joy.
3. He had the kindest heart.
4. He helped me when I needed it, without asking. Once I had the flu and I looked and felt terrible. After sweating with a fever all day, I probably didn't smell too lovely either. He came over after class with Gatorade and chicken soup to take care of me. And after seeing the horror that I could be, he came back for more.
5. He never let me down and always kept his word.
6. One of our first dates was to see Red Skelton, whom we had both adored as small children. Red was older than dirt and probably not long to this earth, so it was a golden opportunity. When his roommates' dates found out we were going, they were envious because THEY would have loved to have seen him too since we all grew up watching him. (We were all newly dating.) But THEIR dates hadn't gotten tickets, thinking that seeing Red Skelton wasn't cool and would make them look bad. DH didn't worry about whether he looked/seemed cool. He just asked me if I'd like to go and I said yes. The other guys didn't even ask their dates if they'd like to go, for fear of looking uncool. Yes, it was an odd sort of date, but it was a special evening if you had grown up with Red Skelton and I'll treasure it forever.
Basically, he was refreshingly honest and trustworthy. I knew he was solid and I'd always be able to count on him. He had a good sense of humor, good character, was handsome, and enjoyed talking about all sorts of things. He never bored me. He was the real deal.