Have you ever been to a funeral for a baby or child?

[Jenvenza]

If its your DD in your signature, she is absolutely adorable.

Thank you! Yes, that is her. Our sweet little girl.

 

[Charlotte ~08]

Goodness me, this is such a sad thread. So many sad stories. Hugs to anyone who has been through such heartache and loss.

 

[Jenvenza]

Goodness me, this is such a sad thread. So many sad stories. Hugs to anyone who has been through such heartache and loss.

I was thinking the same thing. to everyone!

 

[JoJo's Mom]

When I was in HS I had a 16 year old friend die in a car accient. The other car ran a red light. It was horrible.

I also have a friend that lost his 3 month old to SIDS. This just happened a little over a week ago.

It's a very hard thing to attend. I hope to never deal with something like that again.

 

[TeresaBelle]

Yes, oh the horror...my cousins 1 year old choked to death on a piece of a broken knick knack he'd found up under something while playing in the floor at his Grandma's. They had a graveside service and the casket was closed, it was incredibly sad, but when his parents asked for it to be opened so they could see him one more time, oh my God, it was the worst thing in the world. I wish no one ever had to experience that pain.

I'm sorry for your DD's friend.

 

[freckles and boo]

Yes, I have and it was heartbreaking. He was three and drowned while in the care of his grandparents. I hope never to have to go to another child's funeral ever again.

 

[cruellababy]

Goodness me, this is such a sad thread. So many sad stories. Hugs to anyone who has been through such heartache and loss.

Oh my gosh- I didn't know what to post as I have never been thru such an awful event. Thanks for posting exactly what I was thinking and couldn't penn. OP-so sorry for the heartache;you and the family are in our thoughts and prayers.

 

[Enchanted_Mama]

yes. when I was 13, I lost a classmate to cystic fibrosis.

 

[HonnyDipp]

my 5 year old cousin died from an asthma attack 13 years ago. My DH's nephew was 18 months old when he died from a rare disease 4 years ago in May

 

[Master Mason]

I'm not sure where your drawing the line. I have been to one infant, my cousin's baby died of SIDS at about 8 months or so. And to 3 there were teen agers.

 

[EvieGirlsMommy]

I had to go to little Chloe's funeral. She was the twin sister of Donovan. Their mother, Jennifer, is my husbands cousin. She died at a little over a year old. Leukemia. She was the most beautiful little girl with the sweetest little smile. When we were at the funeral, her daddy read a letter he wrote to her. And even now, just thinking of it, makes me cry. It was beautiful. I don't think I cried that much at my grandmas funeral. Not one single person there had a dry eye. It was one of the saddest things I've ever experienced. Every holiday since then has been a little rough with the exception of this past Thanksgiving and Christmas. I have an awesome daughter who is pretty outgoing and has an awesome little personality. So we'd be together for holidays, and she'd be sitting on the sofa with sunglasses on and I was hoping Evie wouldn't make too much noise. I guess I felt like I was rubbing it in that Evie was healthy and Chloe was gone. Finally... after a few family get togethers.... she started bringing her camera and I saw her smiling when she was taking pictures of Evie and Donovan. That's when it started to feel better to have Evie around. Today... Jennifer has a new little girl, Ava. She still has all of the pictures of Donovan and Chloa in theri matching outfits and she has pictures of Ava in her sisters clothes. It's touching. I pray that I never have to go through that again.

 

[lucyanna girl]

fortheluvofpooh, I'm so very sorry.

My friend lost a six month old baby daughter in a car accident. Beautiful baby, she looked like a sleeping angel in the casket wearing the dress and bonnet her grandmother had already bought for her first Easter outfit. Her mother was still in intensive care. It was absolutely horrible.

Another friends grand-baby was stillborn. He looked like a tiny, perfect wax doll. That one was really tough because the other set of grandparents were religiously opposed to doctors and the baby was born at home. The cord was around his little neck. The religious grandfather was the preacher who did the service. I never knew how my friends found the strength to sit through that service without railing out at him. The baby was the first grand-baby on both sides.

Children's funerals are just so painful because that's not the way it should be. Tiny caskets are unbearably cruel to see.

Penny

 

[LuvOrlando]

-

 

[Minnesota!]

Yes. My godaughter died of a brain tumor 17 months ago. It was awful.

 

[MidgeD79]

yes I have: dd Rebekah 14 hours in 1986, dgd Hannah 4 hours in 1999, ds Michael 18 years in 2003 and dd Jessica 26 years in 2006.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Went to a funeral for a 22 month old - mom went to answer the door, baby drowned in the tub.

It was horrible - my friend (the mother) had a nervous breakdown and had to be hospitalized for a month.

She could not attend the wake and funeral and the therapists suggested to video it.

There were three videographers at church and at the gravesite as the casket is going in the ground. It was awful.

The husband was so lost - no son and no wife by his side. My friend never recovered mentally and they ended up divorced.

 

[Danauk]

18 months ago I went to the funeral of 2 13 year old boys. They were killed in a car crash, one of the boys mums was driving the car and she survived. Very sad.

 

[ZachnElli]

Some friends of ours lost their DD 8 hours after she was born. They found out about halfway through the pregnancy (routine ultrasound) that she had a heart condition and they saw several specialists and they gave her a 25% chance to survive. I never saw her and the only picture I saw was at the funeral and it was her dad's hand with her gripping his pinky, just their hands. Such a precious picture.

 

[bookgirl]

Years ago. Eric was 2 1/2 when he died. Cause was listed as Thrombo Cytopenia. It's a long word for a failure to clot. He got sick and just started to bleed out internally. He had no history except he bruised very easily. He was in the daycare I worked in. I had him as a one year old then when he moved to the two's I moved to three's and those classes shared a room so he was constantly with me. He was called my shadow. I rocked him to sleep with his head on my heart on a Wednesday and called his mom to pick him up early as he was feverish. Friday morning he was gone. He was buried on Monday. I was very young and very heartbroken even though he was not mine. He'd been with me five days a week, 10 hours aday for 2 years. His parents had a line from my sympathy letter engraved on his stone. That was 19 years ago. I still tear up. I've lost people closer to me, but his is the funeral that still makes me weep.

 

[CDoobee]

Yes, I have.

My friend's DD 15 was murdered at school 14 years ago. My DD is a senior at that school now.

And my own DD's funeral (Hilside on the DIS). While she was not a child (she was 33), she was MY child. She was very tiny due to a bone disorder and so was in a tiny casket.