ogreenlee
<font color=green>i surely didn't want to have to
- Joined
- Jun 6, 2006
I had a "friend" who wasn't there for me while my mom was sick, but she was going thru her own ordeal, and I was there for her even though my mom was sick. I spent a lot of time, while taking care of my mom listening to her problems over the phone.
THEN... my mom died. When I returned home after being gone for 2 months, the phone rings within 30 minutes of our arrival. It was her. She said, "Oh you're home? Good. Is your DH there?" I didn't know what was up, so I handed him the phone. She asked him for Ipod help. I had been in my house for the first time in two months for less than 30 minutes, and this *itch had the nerve to immediately ask for my husband's help with an Ipod? Well, that was the first straw. Then her husband left for jail. These are not your typical jail-type people. They live in a very nice home in a very nice neighborhood, and his dumbself decided to help a childhood friend he grew up with by watering his weed plants while the friend was out of town. STUPID. He didn't know that the house was being watched. Now my friend had warned him that he should never even talk to that friend again, but whatever. That's neither here nor there. He lost a really good job, and had to go to jail for a year for conspiracy, this after just having a baby 8 months prior (they also have a child my DD's age).
Anyway, her being mad at the world decided to use me as her new punching bag b/c the whole year before he had to leave and was going through trial, she made his life miserable. I'm certain he was happy to go by the time she was done with him. But when he was gone, she had no one to be hateful to. So she used me. Well my mother had just died, and I was in no damn mood.
You want to talk about someone NOT being passive aggressive. How many ways can you come up with to tell someone to "buzz off"? Well I did it in a 5 page typed email. She was to never call me again.
THe saddest part is that her little girl and my little girl were best friends, and my DD asks about her all the time. I have to tell my DD that if a friend isn't being a friend, then you have to let go of them. She says, "Well **** was nice to me." And that breaks my heart b/c her little friend didn't do anything to her. But... I couldn't stick around just for her. I was done.
I've been much happier since. No more drama!!
Sometimes kickin' to the curb is the only choice you got!
THEN... my mom died. When I returned home after being gone for 2 months, the phone rings within 30 minutes of our arrival. It was her. She said, "Oh you're home? Good. Is your DH there?" I didn't know what was up, so I handed him the phone. She asked him for Ipod help. I had been in my house for the first time in two months for less than 30 minutes, and this *itch had the nerve to immediately ask for my husband's help with an Ipod? Well, that was the first straw. Then her husband left for jail. These are not your typical jail-type people. They live in a very nice home in a very nice neighborhood, and his dumbself decided to help a childhood friend he grew up with by watering his weed plants while the friend was out of town. STUPID. He didn't know that the house was being watched. Now my friend had warned him that he should never even talk to that friend again, but whatever. That's neither here nor there. He lost a really good job, and had to go to jail for a year for conspiracy, this after just having a baby 8 months prior (they also have a child my DD's age).
Anyway, her being mad at the world decided to use me as her new punching bag b/c the whole year before he had to leave and was going through trial, she made his life miserable. I'm certain he was happy to go by the time she was done with him. But when he was gone, she had no one to be hateful to. So she used me. Well my mother had just died, and I was in no damn mood.
You want to talk about someone NOT being passive aggressive. How many ways can you come up with to tell someone to "buzz off"? Well I did it in a 5 page typed email. She was to never call me again.
THe saddest part is that her little girl and my little girl were best friends, and my DD asks about her all the time. I have to tell my DD that if a friend isn't being a friend, then you have to let go of them. She says, "Well **** was nice to me." And that breaks my heart b/c her little friend didn't do anything to her. But... I couldn't stick around just for her. I was done.
I've been much happier since. No more drama!!
Sometimes kickin' to the curb is the only choice you got!