Gender and Jobs

[tvguy]

I had a very, VERY beautiful nurse working on a very, VERY private part of me when I was 19. I’ll never forget it, but I’d like to.

Me too. Bladder ultrasound. I felt like I was cheating on my wife........so much so I had to tell my wife.

 

[dotfurio]

I guess it boils down to bedside manner for ob/gyn (or any doctor for that matter). The three males I've been to have been very abrupt and dismissive of concerns. The one female I've been going to now for over 20 years is fantastic and I always feel like she hears me and addresses any issues. She's very proactive.

 

[weeniecat2442]

I had a similar experience. When I was having "issues" the female dr. at the Air Force clinic pretty much dismissed me when my pap came back normal even though I was having other symptoms. Months later after DH retired and they assigned us to the Navy clinic I was having worse problems and made another appt. That male dr. took me seriously, ran tests, and then sent me to a specialist because he knew something was wrong. I credit him with saving my life because it turns out I had uterine cancer! The oncologist I was referred to is also male and he is awesome. Even DH was impressed with him, and now that I just go for routine checks I feel comfortable knowing he is a good dr.

The only one I can think of is someone measuring you or fitting you for clothes. I don't think I'd want a male measuring and fitting me for a bra or alterations on a formal dress. Most guys probably don't care as much about getting measured for a dress shirt or suit jacket. Then I think about that episode of "Friends" with Joey's tailor measuring for pants!

That episode with Joey's tailor is too funny!!

 

[sjberg79]

I've had some pretty terrible male OB-GYNs. My least favorite one was the one who told me how "lucky" I was for having debilitating, 10/10 ovulation pain, that it was a sign from God to go find my husband to have relations with him. It was actually a sign of a giant ovarian cyst bursting I would later find out with a better OB-GYN. I also had a different male OB-GYN make me suffer through 34 hours of pitocin after my water broke before doing a c-section, but I will say he was an excellent surgeon and compared to all my friends who had c-sections my recovery was a piece of cake and I was back on to myself in days. I don't think he was a great surgeon because he's a man, but I did appreciate that he was good at that aspect of his job. I do prefer females in that role though.

 

[Hisgirl]

I prefer women doctors. Especially for female stuff. And I prefer older doctors, not old old, but middle aged, old enough to have seen it all.

 

[BadgerGirl84]

I only consider female nannies to watch my girls. It's almost all young ladies/women who apply, but I did have a male college student apply once.

 

[Sabeking]

I am more comfortable with a female Masseuse. (Sp?)

 

[Erzengel]

I prefer a female massage therapist.

 

[wvjules]

I prefer male sports commentators. Other than that I don't seem to have a preference.

 

[Skippyboo]

Female mammogram techs for sure! Not that I have seen a male one.

 

[neverlandsky]

Arby's commercials by Ving Rhames. I seriously can't picture a female voice doing those commercials.

 

[LongLiveRafiki]

I prefer a female ob/gynecologist. I just don't think you can really understand and have true empathy for certain things if you don't have the anatomy for it ....like period cramps, PMS, and child birth.

I once thought that way too, but my personal experiences have shown me otherwise. For years, female OB/GYNs refused to acknowledge the level of pain I was in, insisting it was normal. It was a male doc who finally prescribed continuous use BC to avoid that pain. Numerous females refused to do a hysterectomy, with one telling me I'd be less of a woman without periods and a uterus. A male OB/GYN said that because he can't relate to that sort of pain, he would be negligent to not take my claims seriously and that, coupled with my medical history, a hysterectomy seemed the logical choice. Overall, it seemed the women acted like their personal experiences represented every other woman's, whereas the men tried to look at the individual circumstances.

That makes sense to read--though my own experience is contradictory. Both of the male ob/gyns I had over the years were the two best, most willing to take my concerns seriously, really listened, etc.

I had one female ob/gyn who basically told me "we all have cramps get over it" and wouldn't even listen to an issue I was having.

I agree. I dealt with that for years. I think some doctors don't quite understand that every patient experiences things differently.

As a woman, I prefer male doctors, nurses, and physical therapists. While I understand that every person is different, IME, the women try to look at everything too much from an emotional sense with trying to relate/compare pain, putting more of a focus on how I'm handling my physical pain emotionally, etc. The men seem to focus more on the actual tests, and are more willing to explain the medical aspect of things. Male nurses seem to be much more respecting of my privacy. The women usually seem to assume that because we are both women, I should be completely comfortable with them. With PTs, the men are great at working out knots because they usually have more strength to put into it.

 

[indimom]

AppleDumpling: "]I used to feel this way as well. In the past, I had 2 wonderful female doctors; one retired and one I had to change due to insurance. When I needed to find a new one, I was very reluctant to go to a male, but got a recommendation from a close friend and now I’ve been seeing him almost 20 years. He is very kind, has a great “bedside manner”, and I’ve gotten totally comfortable with him. I also think, at least IME, once you’ve had a baby, and in my case, gone through infertility treatments, you lose some modesty and really don’t care; you just want someone who’s able to help you, and who respects and treats you well."

Actually, I've had two kids (a long time ago, lol). And, you're right, I did lose a lot of my modesty. I told my husband that in the throws of labor, his brothers could have been catching the baby and I wouldn't have cared...
But, even now, at 45, I just prefer a woman. I would go to a male OBGYN if I had to, but I've never been at a loss for a female doc.

 

[ZephyrHawk]

I prefer a female gyno (not so much Ob), but I've had both genders in the past and been happy. It's not that I'm worried about a male doctor not being qualfied, but there are some issues I might not feel entirely comfortable with discussing with a guy - even a doctor.

/Has a funny story involving a male gyno
//Obviously won't tell it here

 

[DisneyOma]

Anyone with common sense wants the best qualified person to have the job. But is there any profession you really just want the person to be a certain sex

Nurse - I hate when I get a man nurse, some have been great nurses and felt bad for thinking that, but still when a nurse come sup to me, I much prefer it be a women

Since gender is an artificial stereotype, nope, I don't prefer any gender over another for any situation except the ones between me and my husband

 

[ronandannette]

It wasn’t that I preferred it one way or another or that they were necessarily any better at the job but my DS usually did better in school when the classes were taught by men. One remarkable thing happened when he was in grade 1. His school had a faculty of about 35 teachers, only two of whom were men (one was an administrator). At one point a young man joined the staff to do his student-teaching practicum. Men in primary education are pretty rare and it was incredible how the little boys gravitated to him and sought his attention. They followed him around like he was the Pied Piper.

 

[Nakkira]

I prefer a female ob/gynecologist. I just don't think you can really understand and have true empathy for certain things if you don't have the anatomy for it ....like period cramps, PMS, and child birth.

This. For all the rest I do not care, but for my lady bits I want someone with the same bits taking care of them.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

 

[dclpluto]

I’m a male. I have only had female doctors since I have been a grown up. That’s the way I want it.

Will rather get a waitress than a waiter. I have found out you are usually better off with a waitress. It’s just not in the USA. I have notice on cruises that the female servers and assistant servers usually do a better job than the men. Not always but your better off with a female most of the time.

 

[mummabear]

I prefer a female ob/gynecologist. I just don't think you can really understand and have true empathy for certain things if you don't have the anatomy for it ....like period cramps, PMS, and child birth.

Me too.

Midwives I refused a male midwife giving birth. In fact prefer midwives who have actually given birth

Yes!!!!although out of the 3 I had only 1 had kids. In the moment during labour I certainly felt like saying “what do you know”