PLEASE DELETE THREAD - ITS ASSANINE
This is my first post. Sorry I don't know all the initials yet.
When I came across the title of this thread, I bristled. I thought, "Oh, man. Here we go." It still has ended up a little "Oh man. Here we go.", but not the way I thought it would.
Just wanted to say I am truly, truly touched by the support of the LGBT community on these boards. Though things got highly contentious on this thread, I think it was mostly in service of the idea that LGBT people deserve respect and acceptance. And that's great!
Hey, OP! I thought your first post of questions was super-reasonable! I also thought a lot of people's responses were super-reasonable! I think you got a lot of great advice on what to say JUST IN CASE your kids ask questions about why two dudes are holding hands or kissing or whatever. That advice wasn't there to upset you; it was there to help make your trip great! And I hope your trip turns out great. I haven't been to Gay Days, so I don't know what it's like personally. But I do know that the more gay people you encounter and see and deal with in your life, the more you realize that people are people, and the answers to those tough questions are easier when you're thinking about a human being than an abstract concept.
Anyway, have an AMAZING trip, OP! I suspect that the worst thing that happens is that you're extra-surrounded by kind people who love each other...in red. And it was really nice to see (other than the "women who kiss each other don't exist because those aren't our values" person) that most of the responses, whether heated or measured, overwhelmingly were in the spirit of inclusiveness and personal liberty. And love! And geez, can you think of anything more Disney?
Saturday marks three months until my week-long November trip to WDW with my partner. Animal Kingdom Lodge! I can't wait. We'll probably hold hands looking over the savannah. I mean, how could you not?
-M
It'd be great if it was! But that's not reality. Things like Black History Month and Gay Pride (and Gay Days) exist to lend visibility to groups that have historically been underrepresented and marginalized. Saying there should be hetero days and white history months assumes there's a level playing field. There isn't.
One day, these special gatherings and distinctions won't be necessary. But as long as people are discriminated against for the color of their skin or who they love, we will have these things to give a face and voice to our struggles and victories.
And one day, threads like this will be unnecessary. And even though by that time we'll probably be wearing sun-suits while fighting aliens, it'll be a good day.
I apologize... it was not intended the way that many have taken it. Notwithstanding, to paraphrase Dumbledore, if you are waiting for universal approval it will unfortunately never happen. People have biases no matter... correct or not... that's simply part of human nature.
I believe the biggest point of difference is that those of us who hold to conservative/Biblical values do not believe anybody is born homosexual. We believe it is choice and free will.
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Originally Posted by Maleficent Dragon View Post
I believe the biggest point of difference is that those of us who hold to conservative/Biblical values do not believe anybody is born homosexual. We believe it is choice and free will.
Tolerance goes both ways this isn't appropriate either.
It's also inappropriate to be quiet and tolerate intolerance such as people claiming that being gay is a choice and a lifestyle.
This is my first post. Sorry I don't know all the initials yet.
When I came across the title of this thread, I bristled. I thought, "Oh, man. Here we go." It still has ended up a little "Oh man. Here we go.", but not the way I thought it would.
Just wanted to say I am truly, truly touched by the support of the LGBT community on these boards. Though things got highly contentious on this thread, I think it was mostly in service of the idea that LGBT people deserve respect and acceptance. And that's great!
Hey, OP! I thought your first post of questions was super-reasonable! I also thought a lot of people's responses were super-reasonable! I think you got a lot of great advice on what to say JUST IN CASE your kids ask questions about why two dudes are holding hands or kissing or whatever. That advice wasn't there to upset you; it was there to help make your trip great! And I hope your trip turns out great. I haven't been to Gay Days, so I don't know what it's like personally. But I do know that the more gay people you encounter and see and deal with in your life, the more you realize that people are people, and the answers to those tough questions are easier when you're thinking about a human being than an abstract concept.
Anyway, have an AMAZING trip, OP! I suspect that the worst thing that happens is that you're extra-surrounded by kind people who love each other...in red. And it was really nice to see (other than the "women who kiss each other don't exist because those aren't our values" person) that most of the responses, whether heated or measured, overwhelmingly were in the spirit of inclusiveness and personal liberty. And love! And geez, can you think of anything more Disney?
Saturday marks three months until my week-long November trip to WDW with my partner. Animal Kingdom Lodge! I can't wait. We'll probably hold hands looking over the savannah. I mean, how could you not?
-M
I'll give the OP the benefit of the doubt although as a gay man, it is insulting to think they could possibly believe that Gay Days at Disney could be like New Orleans Mardi Gras.
Which reminds me of a story that happened to me this year at Gay Days 2014. I normally arrive the weekend before so I can do Disney and Universal at my own pace before friends come to town mid-week. I got a great deal at POFQ so I had 5 nights there before changing hotels for gay days events. On Monday June 2nd, I took the boat to Downtown Disney to see a late showing of Maleficent. When it was over, my only option was to take the DD bus back. At that time, the bus was being shared with Riverside. About 12 people got on. I sat in the upper section in the back next to the door if you know Disney buses. There were a few people in the lower section including a couple of kids. Two heterosexual couples, middle aged at that, sat up in the back section with me. Against the back wall.
They were drunk beyond belief. Being very loud and using very salty language if you will. You could hear sloppy kissing going on in the dark. The bus went to Riverside first. When we arrived at the first bus stop, the lights came on. The 2 couples in the back with me must not have known that would happen. One of the women, approximately late 40's early 50s mind you, had her hand up the cargo shorts of one of the gentlemen. He... how can I say this... seemed very happy about this. They all broke into hysterics with the lights came on. There was a little girl sitting across from the mid section door. Maybe 9 years old. Her mother looking at a smart phone oblivious. Not sure if the girl saw anything. The 2 couples probably didn't care. Everyone had gotten off the bus by the 4th Riverside stop except me and the 2 couples. At the last Riverside stop, they staggered off the bus. One of the women asked me if I wanted to go swimming. I said, kinda sarcastically, that I didn't have my swim trunks. She yelled "F*** swim trunks! We're going skinny dipping!"
Not sure what kind of debauchery happened at the Riverside pool later after that but I can tell you from attending Gay Days Disneyland 6 times and Gay Days WDW 3 times, I have never seen such inappropriate behavior at Disney. Us gays are way more clever than that and usually at worse resort to tees with double entendres if anything. So before believing rumors that a gathering of gays is going to be like drunken New Orleans Mardi Gras, just remember it's straight people that give Mardi Gras it's reputation and on any given day, there are way more straight people on Disney property that have the chance to be drunk and act the fool than gay ones.
Anyone with this belief probably hasn't had an actual conversation with someone who is LGBTQ. No one wants to be "different".
I believe the biggest point of difference is that those of us who hold to conservative/Biblical values do not believe anybody is born homosexual. We believe it is choice and free will. That is the defining line for acceptance of the lifestyle. It doesn't mean that people who disagree with the lifestyle hate people who are gay. We all have feelings, we all hurt, we all bleed, we all need to be loved.
Why in the holy bleeping heck would we choose to be gay? Let me tell you, straight from the horse's mouth: you are wrong. You have been misinformed. If it's a choice, you choose it. Right now. I'm waiting! *taps foot* And please stop calling it 'the lifestyle'. Say what you really mean: gay sex. We're okay and you can like us so long as we remain celibate, right?
In other news: oh my god this thread is still going!
BTW - Dumbledore, gay. I'm just saying.
The poster stated what she believed based on her faith. No one has to agree with her feelings but a dismissive eye roll is just as belittling.
If someone posted :" I am gay and I have known it since I was a child" and that same poster said nothing except posted that same eye roll, people would have been all over that poster.
What's needed is respect all around for everyone.
But i will disagree that it's always the straight people causing the problem. I have gay and straight friends - both can be equally inappropriate at times. There was a young couple trying to swallow each others tongues (straight couple) at another theme park once - that made me pretty uncomfortable - but I've been to disney a few dozen times and have never felt awkward there...
The poster stated what she believed based on her faith. No one has to agree with her feelings but a dismissive eye roll is just as belittling. If someone posted :" I am gay and I have known it since I was a child" and that same poster said nothing except posted that same eye roll, people would have been all over that poster. What's needed is respect all around for everyone.
The poster stated what she believed based on her faith. No one has to agree with her feelings but a dismissive eye roll is just as belittling.
If someone posted :" I am gay and I have known it since I was a child" and that same poster said nothing except posted that same eye roll, people would have been all over that poster.
What's needed is respect all around for everyone.
Since science is well on it's way to disproving her faith
Haha! Now THAT is funny!
Haha! Now THAT is funny!
Duh. For the sweet parades.Why in the holy bleeping heck would we choose to be gay?