My best friend's husband is bipolar and/or manic depressive. Sometimes he takes his meds, sometimes not. When he is off his meds, he is verbally abusive and has hinted at suicide (meaning he placed a step stool under the hanging garage door chain). She has him committed once, he took his meds, got therapy and she allowed him to come home.
Problem is that our DDs are best friends, and I'm scared to allow DD to go to their house. Because he can be unstable, I'm afraid of what might happen while she is there. I have no problem allowing her daughter in my house, but if i keep refusing to allow her to go over there, it might start to look a little obvious.
I haven't told DD about his illness yet. Mainly because I don't want to scare her and also because I don't really know how much to divulge.
I don't want to say this to my friend, for fear of offending her. (Although she might feel comfortable with him in the house, I don't and I think she may feel that I don't trust her judgment.) Her own daughter has asked that he not drive her around because of his dangerous driving habits.
Any advice on how to handle this delicate situation?
ETA: Both girls are 13
Problem is that our DDs are best friends, and I'm scared to allow DD to go to their house. Because he can be unstable, I'm afraid of what might happen while she is there. I have no problem allowing her daughter in my house, but if i keep refusing to allow her to go over there, it might start to look a little obvious.
I haven't told DD about his illness yet. Mainly because I don't want to scare her and also because I don't really know how much to divulge.
I don't want to say this to my friend, for fear of offending her. (Although she might feel comfortable with him in the house, I don't and I think she may feel that I don't trust her judgment.) Her own daughter has asked that he not drive her around because of his dangerous driving habits.
Any advice on how to handle this delicate situation?
ETA: Both girls are 13