Scornelius
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- Jun 11, 2006
....and anyone else who wants to share their opinions, I guess!
DH and I have been trying to start a family for a while, and due to my PCOS (poly cystic ovarian syndrom) we've been having a lot of trouble. I've has several miscarriages, and though we still have lots of medical options ahead of us, we've been looking into adoption and things like that. This has led to a disagreement about what the 'next best' option would be. So where else would I get opinions than here on the dis??
So, a poll is coming, but I'll lay it out as clearly as I can. After some people respond, I'll come back and share which one of us is taking which stance.
Say you have Girl X and Boy Y, and they want to have a baby, but Girl X cannot carry a baby to term. Which is the next best option?
1) Boy Y fathering a baby with Girl S, (a surrogate) with the idea being Girl X would adopt the baby as soon as it was born. Boy Y would be the biological father, so I assume no formal adoption would be necessary. We'll call the little bundle of joy Baby YS.
2) Boy Y and Girl X having a Girl S implanted with Girl X's egg fertalized by Boy Y. Basically invitro, but with a surrogate mother. We'll call this Baby XY+S. This option comes with more expense than the other two.
3) Boy Y and Girl X adopting a baby from Couple GH. Essentially, a 'regular' adoption where neither Y nor X will have any biological relation to the child.
We'll call this Baby GH.
Hope that makes some sense!! Let me hear those thoughts, people!
DH and I have been trying to start a family for a while, and due to my PCOS (poly cystic ovarian syndrom) we've been having a lot of trouble. I've has several miscarriages, and though we still have lots of medical options ahead of us, we've been looking into adoption and things like that. This has led to a disagreement about what the 'next best' option would be. So where else would I get opinions than here on the dis??
So, a poll is coming, but I'll lay it out as clearly as I can. After some people respond, I'll come back and share which one of us is taking which stance.
Say you have Girl X and Boy Y, and they want to have a baby, but Girl X cannot carry a baby to term. Which is the next best option?
1) Boy Y fathering a baby with Girl S, (a surrogate) with the idea being Girl X would adopt the baby as soon as it was born. Boy Y would be the biological father, so I assume no formal adoption would be necessary. We'll call the little bundle of joy Baby YS.
2) Boy Y and Girl X having a Girl S implanted with Girl X's egg fertalized by Boy Y. Basically invitro, but with a surrogate mother. We'll call this Baby XY+S. This option comes with more expense than the other two.
3) Boy Y and Girl X adopting a baby from Couple GH. Essentially, a 'regular' adoption where neither Y nor X will have any biological relation to the child.
We'll call this Baby GH.
Hope that makes some sense!! Let me hear those thoughts, people!