Well Jen, don't give up hope yet because I've done it, through these boards. A bunch of us women decided to plan a getaway weekend and we did just that - it was pretty cool. Most of us were people who had been talking to each other through posts for a while though.
It did work out well enough that a lot of the original attendees want to do it again - 1st weekend in February. We split costs - 2 or 3 to a room. We met up for dinners and breakfasts almost daily but if you had something else you wanted to do you weren't obligated to go along. I had a great time, both on my own and with the group.
We had a few laughs over meeting on the internet - one of our trippers said her Mom warned her what kind of people we would turn out to be, LOL - but overall we were astonishingly normal. (And I was probably quite boring.
) There's a lot of trust involved when someone you've never met books a room you're going to stay in, on both sides...what can I say, I just felt very comfortable with my future roommates based on "seeing" them around here for a year or so beforehand. I plan on doing that again someday, not sure when.
Oh, and I think the whole thing started when someone posted on the boards, "I think I need a solo trip" and someone else said "me too." So it didn't take much.
I hope you get an opportunity to do the same.