My suggestion - ditch cable, home phone, AND (ugh) internet.
If you are paying $120+ a month for cable, phone, and internet that is $1,440 a year right off the top of your expenses.
If you have two vehicles, consider selling one (gas, insurance etc)
If your utilities seem unreasonable, check and see why.
As many others have said - DO NOT EAT OUT!
The reality that sets in when you realize that you owe more than you can pay off in a year, you will begin to understand how big your problem REALLY is, not just how big the number is.
The holidays are coming up - and you will be tempted to spend money on gifts.... don't. Don't be tempted, don't spend the money - if it means missing a party or two because you don't have a gift... so what?
We are living in such a consumer society that 'consumption' has become as much a part of our lives, as saving was a part of the great depression generation.
When you look at your debt from the historical view... when did you go wrong?
Buy a new car?
Buy a house you couldn't afford?
Buy furnishings you couldn't afford?
The list goes on.... and on - one BIG mistake leads to dozens of smaller mistakes that snowball in to mistakes that become a way of life.
Personally, I am horrible at using the credit card JUST to get the rewards/loyalty points... yeah, not a great reason to use a credit card.
You really have to remember that ever dollar matters when you paying down debt. Every....single...dollar.
If you owe $20,000 one day, that figure could drop below $20,000 tomorrow - $19,999 is only one dollar less.... BUT, it is less than you owed yesterday!
It won't happen overnight, you won't pay down your debt in an instant. BUT, what you have to do is set a payoff goal date. 3 years - 5 years - 10 years - whatever fits your debt amount, and your budget. BUT having a deadline - or goal date - provides you with the ability to see a point in your future when you WILL be debt free.
Don't drown in debt, pace yourself, swim slowly, take advantage of every piece of driftwood so you don't have to swim the entire time - BUT keep your budget focused on a goal - ZERO DEBT.
Remember, if you do have to buy something DO NOT SHOP RETAIL! Don't even shop retail - let alone buy retail.
Spend as much time budgeting as you used to spend shopping.
We all buy things we don't need - and it really can become a habit, but take your time when shopping, buying, and budgeting!
It is hard work, but it will pay off!