Aidensmom said:I feel like I need to come out of the closet here. (Well, first I will pull out my pink flame suit and put it on. )
My son is 4. His favorite color is pink. He plays with Barbies (and his favorite is my old Cher doll ). He has a pink doll stroller he loads up with a combo of stuffed animals, baby dolls, and action figures and takes with him when we go on walks in the neighborhood. His favorite Disney characters are the princesses. I bought him a Nala costume, not Simba, to wear for Halloween, as that is who he wanted. He has a girl's t-shirt from the Disney Store. At 4th of July when I got a hot pink Minnie patriotic t-shirt, he wanted one too. I was going to buy him one even though they were for girls, but they did not have one small enough for him.
Now, I wouldn't purposely steer him towards things that are more feminine, I perfectly well like having a son, but there is nothing wrong with him having the feminine things. He HAS been given a hard time by other kids in his Pre-K class for some of his tastes, but you know what, he already has a enough confidence to say "A boy or a girl can like that, and if it bothers you that is your problem." I've heard him do it. And I am very proud of him.
It sounds as if this woman may have problems with wanting to keep her child a baby. If it is totally her preference to dress the kid in pink, then that is a problem. But at age 2, my son clearly had desires in what he wanted to wear, and I would imagine this child would protest too if it bothered him. I let my son pick most of his clothing because he is picky about it. He has not yet picked something pink, but perhaps that is because there is nothing in the toddler boys department in that color. If he really wanted something pink, yes, I would buy it.
No flames here. Stifiling and trying to change or manipulate a childs natural likes and ways they have fun or play will only lead to therapist bills.