I have two MIL's! One of them is DH's Biological mother whom I posted about in the 'other' thread.
The other MIL is DH's Mom. Technically speaking, DH's step-mom... but this woman raised him from the age of 3 and he calls her Mom.
She an amazingly sweet woman. Kind hearted and loving. She is a health nut who adores yoga, pilates, and vegetarian cooking. She is also a child psychiatrist and did wonders for DH and his older brother after their bio-mom left them. I have always felt welcomed in their home and we get along wonderfully. Heck, sometimes I tolerate her better than my own mom!
We visit with them often and are making a point to see them more often now that we just had our first baby. This is the first grandbaby for them and MIL has been thrilled about it since she found out. When we are down there visiting it is obvious how much she loves DD. I enjoy just watching the two of them interact and seeing how happy it makes both of them! DD thinks MIL is one of the greatest things in the world. I fully intend to let gramma spoil her rotten... though to make it fun I will "tsk tsk tsk" and shake my head when DD gets home and tells me of all the things gramma let her get away with. It is the 'badness' of being spoiled that makes it fun for kids! Secretly, I will love this. DD is only 2 months old now but I look forward to seeing how their relationship grows and am doing my best to make sure they have plenty of time together.
What a difference from Bio-Mom! Whom DH decided years ago, before we ever had kids, that bio-mom would never be allowed unsupervised with any child of ours.
FIL is about 18 yrs older than MIL and I can tell there is a small fear in her heart that once FIL passes she will lose DH and his older brother since they will no longer have that tie to her. I hope she knows how much we desperately love her. She will NEVER be alone in this world, she will ALWAYS have us to care for her, and she will ALWAYS be an integral part in her grand-daughters life. Blood has nothing to do with it. She earned her title of "Mom" and words can not fully express what a wonderful person she is. DH absolutely adores her and so do I.
If I have to put up with the crazy MIL to have the pleasure of having the other one in my life, it is well worth it.
P.S I love watching her giggle when DH, BIL, SIL, and I share stories about the Bio-Mom. "Good MIL, isn't it nice to know you will always be everyones favorite? I mean really.... there is no competition there!"
I also dearly love FIL, and both of DH's Brothers (one older, one younger). My SIL and Younger BIL's boyfriend are also very cool people and we all enjoy spending time together! DH's Aunties are a hilarious bunch and no visit home would be complete without them. Excepting for the *one* person in the other thread I got very lucky with DH's entire family.