Michelle67
<font color=darkorchid>I guess I shouldn't wonder
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- May 31, 2008
OP, I think you are very smart and very compassionate to try to understand why your step daughter would push you away and run to the absentee bio mom. It must be such a terribly hard job to be a step parent. I've never been one, but I had one---actually I've had them on both sides, but went through my teen years in the home with a step mother that I treated pretty badly. I didn't wise up until I had a child of my own at 22.
My husband is not my oldest daughter's dad, but has raised her since she was seven years old. She graduated high school this year. It was a really rough road for him, too. Her natural father often let her down. Still, whenever he strode handsomely into the picture he was the sun and the moon, and my husband was just the mean jerk that made her follow rules. He's not the kind to really show his emotions, but I know it hurt him time and again.
I have huge respect for anybody who sticks with the job of raising another man or woman's child. Parenting is never easy, and step parenting can only be that much harder. From what you've posted, you sound like a good and caring person, and I think that you've probably done a good job with this girl. One of these days I think that, like me, she will wise up and regret treating you the way she is right now. In the meantime, hang in there.
My husband is not my oldest daughter's dad, but has raised her since she was seven years old. She graduated high school this year. It was a really rough road for him, too. Her natural father often let her down. Still, whenever he strode handsomely into the picture he was the sun and the moon, and my husband was just the mean jerk that made her follow rules. He's not the kind to really show his emotions, but I know it hurt him time and again.
I have huge respect for anybody who sticks with the job of raising another man or woman's child. Parenting is never easy, and step parenting can only be that much harder. From what you've posted, you sound like a good and caring person, and I think that you've probably done a good job with this girl. One of these days I think that, like me, she will wise up and regret treating you the way she is right now. In the meantime, hang in there.