dismom2005
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- May 9, 2005
My husband of 11 years and I are going through a very rough patch - he had an emotional affair that turned physical earlier this year. I found out about it and we started going to MC and IC. Husband is very shameful of the affair but it is over - the young woman has moved on to another person.
We are struggling right now with what happens next. We are temporarily separated right now because it's just too painful to be around each other right now. He is subleting an apartment temporarily but we have an agreement that there will be no dating or other people involved while we are trying to work things out or I will file for divorce. Our marriage is not perfect, but we fought very little, in fact we were almost not passionate enough about things. We're the best of friends but he wants more from marriage than just a good friendship. I don't disagree but he is not the kind of person who shows or ever wanted romance or passion before. It's all very confusing.
My worry of course is for the children - I know lots of people divorce and the children are fine but I am so very afraid what a divorce or long term separation with two different houses would do to our children. My oldest son, 8, is very sensitive and I couldn't imagine what this would do to him He already knows that daddy isn't around much and he's been a lot more emotional and upset, as have I.
I still feel so much love for my husband and just can't imagine life without him. He loves the children more than words and I just hope it's not too late to somehow turn this around. Any advice or comments are appreciated.
We are struggling right now with what happens next. We are temporarily separated right now because it's just too painful to be around each other right now. He is subleting an apartment temporarily but we have an agreement that there will be no dating or other people involved while we are trying to work things out or I will file for divorce. Our marriage is not perfect, but we fought very little, in fact we were almost not passionate enough about things. We're the best of friends but he wants more from marriage than just a good friendship. I don't disagree but he is not the kind of person who shows or ever wanted romance or passion before. It's all very confusing.
My worry of course is for the children - I know lots of people divorce and the children are fine but I am so very afraid what a divorce or long term separation with two different houses would do to our children. My oldest son, 8, is very sensitive and I couldn't imagine what this would do to him He already knows that daddy isn't around much and he's been a lot more emotional and upset, as have I.
I still feel so much love for my husband and just can't imagine life without him. He loves the children more than words and I just hope it's not too late to somehow turn this around. Any advice or comments are appreciated.