Two separate questions here: One is how does a Disney trip stack up financially to a trip elsewhere, and the other is how much pleasure do you get from your trip to Disney (which probably justifies the price).
I used to find Disney a cheaper, more affordable, better value vacation than a trip almost anywhere else, because it was cheap for us, and we loved it. It comes down to the choices you make for your family. For 19 of our Disney trips, we stayed offsite. Often we were traveling with other family members, but even when it was just me and DD (and especially when DH traveled with us), it was more cost-effective to stay offsite and rent a car. Because of affiliation programs, we were staying in suite hotels or villas for about $50 a night- sometimes split between two families, and the cost of the minivan (once again deeply discounted
$100 for a week, never more than $200) was split with my sis and her 2 kids. My sis had APs for many years, so that took care of parking. We ate breakfast at our suite/villa, and ate dinner offsite several times a trip, also. Disney was an incredibly cheap way for us to vacation. However, many families wouldn't consider it a Disney vacation if they had to stay offsite. That significantly increases hotel costs, even if you don't use a rental car/parking, due to DME. If you have a larger family (three kids) you have to get 2 rooms or a suite/villa- NOT cheap at Disney prices. This would be detrimental for us
but for some people, staying offsite would ruin their trip and make it a significantly "bad value" for them.
Disney became a better value for us once they started DME. Staying offsite, without other families to split costs with, increased the price of our vacation. SUddenly Disney took away the cost of a rental car and parking, and by paying attention to their calendar, we didn't have to pay rack rate. Sure, it was a claustrophobically small room, but we were only there to sleep. Then free dining came in, and for awhile that increased the value of staying onsite, too. However, we have learned that we HATE using the Disney buses during the week, and the dining plan isn't a good fit for our eating habits, so while they still might be a good value, they detract from our enjoyment of our vacation. We rent the car (at least we don't pay for parking), purchase the appetizers/adult beverages and skip dessert, etc., while staying onsite. Definitely detracts from the value
but increases the pleasure, so we justify it.
We have a big trip coming up: We are going to the Food & Wine festival to celebrate DD's 21st birthday!
We are all VERY excited, but this is a BIG, costly trip for us. We are staying at BWV in a studio, rented on DVC points (but STILL $200 a night- ouch, for us), bought park hopper passes so we can go to F&W whenever we want to (we stopped hopping years ago), and will rent a car as we prefer this to the bus and feel it saves us time, and time=money at Disney. I am HAPPY to spend this money (which I know is trivial for some, but WAY over what we usually spend at Disney) because it's a special trip. What will determine the VALUE of this trip will be whether we have a wonderful, relaxing, enjoyable time. I have concerns with how FP+ will effect our trip, which will in turn effect how I feel about the value of this particular Disney trip. Only time will tell, and I am trying not to stress about it, but enjoyment vs. cost is pretty much how I determine whether a Disney trip was a "good value" and "worth it" for me. Don't worry
we still will have a wonderful time, as we are celebrating a milestone event for the most perfect daughter imaginable, traveling together as a family. I'll judge the value of the trip AFTER it's over- not going to let THAT ruin our fun while we are there!