Disney 1st trimester or postpone TTC?

[Zandersmom]

Hi fellow disney fans!
Please help with some advice for my dilemma.... We've been trying ffr # 2 since 2/08. We've been through Clomid, IUI, a MC, a break, now TTC again w/ clomid. We have a family trip planned to Disney this September and I can't wait. However I am trying to decide if we should go forward with clomid and IUI this month (expensive) and risk being 10 weeks pregnant at disney (about the time I MC'd last time) or put things off a couple months and fully enjoy our trip (but I'm desperate to have another baby).
Any words of wisdom?
Thanks!
Becca

 

[2d_star_to_the_right]

Having done IVF several times with no success- I would not want to go to Disney pregnant. For myself, I know I would worry incessantly that something -such as rides, prolonged walking, prolonged sun and so on would just be the thing that caused everything to go wrong. I think sometimes taking a break from the fertility stuff can be what does the trick. I am not saying that you'll get pregnant- but sometime destressing allows the IVF on the next cycle to work better. Stress plays a large role!

Just thoughts from one who had to make a similar decision-
(happy mom to 3 from Russia!)

 

[fabumouse]

I agree. I was 8 weeks pregnant the last time I went to WDW and it wasn't hot in January. I went because we had already planned the trip, but it took a lot out of me. All that walking, the crowds, the unfamiliar food - if nothing else, there is a good chance that you'll be queasy if you're pregnant and for some people that could mean you'd see a lot more of the Disney bathrooms than you'd care to.

Good luck on both endeavors!

 

[my2tinkerbells]

I would probably wait if I were you. Go on your vacation, relax and try again when you get back. I would be such a nervous wreck, I have had 3 early miscarriages, and I would be so paranoid I would not even be funny! Plus, If you have morning sickness that would put a real damper on your fun! Good Luck with TTC and your vacation!

 

[KirstenB]

After 3 yrs of trying, we had dd2 last September. I was 39. We went to WDW in January, I think I was 9-10 wks along. I felt great. If you're young, then wait if you want. At my age, I wouldn't have waited for anything!

 

[golden1]

I am planning on TTC#3 soon but I am purposly waiting until after my WDW vacation in December. This will be my last vacation for a LONG time and I want to enjoy it.

The only reason I wouldn't postpone it is due to age reasons. If you are around 40 or older, sometimes time is a huge factor.

 

[cheerbop]

Having been on many forms of fertility myself, I find this a hard question to give one answer to.

On one hand, I say do your fertility and see what happens. But
On the other hand, will it work this time and would you end up not being pregnant at all at the time of the trip?
If you postponed your fertility then you may regret it b/c what if the "Month" SHOULD happen in the next couple of months? then putting it off may make the process even longer...

It is a difficult decision that only YOU can answer.

I went through a tough decision trying to decide if we should take our trip in Sept, being 7 months PG with #3.
If if feel at all how I feel right now (at 18 weeks), then I would be fairly miserable at WDW. It would be a joy to spend the time with my family there, but if I ended up being as sick as I am right now it would NOT be too fun for me.
We decided to postpone till baby is maybe 9/10 months or till it is over a year.

I wish you luck in your decision. I know how it feels to be desperate for another child.

 

[Nanu57v]

I say skip a month and then TTC in Disney (if your body times it right).

 

[shruley]

I kind of have a hard time answering this, as we really haven't had a hard time TTC but I can tell you I would NOT want to go to WDW in my first trimester. Make that, I could not. I have been SO sick with both my pregnancies, it's not even funny. With the last one I only threw up about twice a day but still had to take time off work and was dead tired. I came home, collapsed on the couch, and was asleep at 8 pm or throwing up. Now, that said, I know people who go through their pregnancies and are never sick a day! You just never know...

However, I also known when TTC #2 it was frustrating putting our life on hold waiting every month for something that didn't happen. So if you do plan on going and end up pregnant have a plan to be able to get a refund if you do get sick and find a trip isn't doable.

 

[JennyW]

If you want to get the most out of your trip, I would personally wait. You will feel better and not worry. Also, if you're prone to any "morning" sickness (mine was all day), you really won't get the most out of the trip. I'm sure a month or so delay won't make a big difference, and the trip will do you good!

jenny

 

[slbeaute]

What a decision! I haven't had the fertility treatments, but I was miserable my first trimester. I would have spent my whole vacation in the room. I was also very paranoid about any little twitch or feeling that something might be wrong. I think if I would have gone to WDW, the only things I would have done would be shows. I also wouldn't have ridden the busses. I remember going on a school field trip with my class on the bus and having the worst headache and recovery after that. I'm sure it just depends on how your pregnancies are physically, but if you are going to be worried or sick the whole time, I really would postpone it. Either way, good luck with #2! I'm sure everyone here is sending some very special pixie dust your way!

 

[Zandersmom]

I just wanted to thank all of you for your support! What a nice group of people and I really appreciate everybody's point of view! I think what we're leaning towards is halfway trying (clomid and no stressing, too painful not to try a tiny bit) then have a great vacation followed some serious fertility stuff as needed. Thanks again and please feel free to add any thoughts, I've really enjoyed the support and good wishes. I hope that all of you have fabulous trips too!
Becca

 

[cheerbop]

I think your decision is a good one. Clomid is still a trip in itself but not the whole shebang (sp?).
Maybe the stress relief of not going at the fertility full force for awhile will actually help your body become more relaxed and "receptive", if you know what I mean...
definitely prayers and pixie dust to you...for a new baby and for your trip!!

 

[KimberlyC]

I never had fertility issues but I did have morning sickness ALL DAY LONG for nine whole months and by the third trimester was on ordered bed rest. DH accompanied me to WDW during my first trimester. I had to go to FLA for work and was on lifting restrictions (from hemmoraging at 7 weeks) so we decided to make a long weekend of it. Having vomited in almost every bathroom at MK and quite a few at Epcot, I don't recommend it. I sucked it up and tried to have a nice time for DH, but the Magic Kingdom was not too magical for me that trip. Thankfully, it was just a long weekend. I was happy to get back home to my own bathroom.

And btw, keep the hope because my best friend had 4 very early MC's before trying Clomid and Progesterone (sp) and she is now pregnant and finally out of the first trimester. Miracles do happen, we expect to welcome hers in January!

 

[MommyBryn]

I think you made a good decision! If things are meant to happen before you go, then it'll work out. If not, then you can enjoy your vacation care-free and hopefully get some great baby news shortly after you come back!!

I'm facing a similar decision (going to WDW in Feb. '07). We've decided to just let things happen as they come (if that means a pg., that's wonderful! If not, that'll work, too!) I'm not to afraid of being pg. while in Disney, as my recent pregnancy was a breeze (I was never sick or anything...and I can only hope the rest will be the same...if I follow my family "tradition" of having easy pg's), but I don't want to be too far along, yet I've also lost several babies before I had my daughter so I also have he fear of m/c'ing there, too.

 

[barkley]

if you should conceive before the vacation consider that no 2 pregnancies are alike-with one the first trimester can be a breeze, with another it can be terrible. first trimester w/ ds i was nausious but not horribly so-not much else, first trimester w/ dd no nauseau at all-but spotted the entire time (and no way could have traveled).

 

[CastMemberDWA]

THIS IS SIMPLE - Don't overthink it.

DISNEY WILL ALWAYS BE THERE. ​

Your family, kids, and health are much more important.

I wish you the best of luck and a happy cradle after you have the baby.

Then ....trip to Disney to celebrate!

 

[Suzanne74]

Hi there,

Jumping into say that I was in the same exact position as you a month ago. We have an upcoming trip Aug 15th for 8 nights with my dd5, DH and MIL. I have been TTC #2 for SO SO long and I barely ovulate so this was tough. I have been to a specialist since late March and have been on 50mg of Clomid with no success. My doctor wanted to increase the dose and try again. DH and I talked and we decided to go for it. We have been trying for so long - why wait another few months? So I went on 100mg Clomid and had great follicles and they even offered me an IUI to cover all our bases, LOL. We did and I am FINALLY pregnant. We are very excited. My previous pregnancy was a breeze and so far this one is too. I am about 3wks along and know that I could get some nausea, fatigue etc... but you know what, I am pregant, my daughter is going to have a sibling and I am going to Disney I am on cloud 9 now!!! We aren't commando anyway and we always go real early in the morning, take breaks all hot afternoon (either naps or pool) and then head back at night. I won't be doing any crazy rides and I have DH and MIL with me to help out. I think it will be magical

I just know that if I waited last month and then again this month and then couldn't try the month I was at Disney - that is 3-4 months wasted in TTC. I guess depending on your age and fertility problems you could hold off but why if you have been trying for so long. I understand your concern for the MC but you also have to understand that every inception and pregancy is different and going to Disney won't make you MC if you relax, have fun and take it easy. Personally I think it would keep your mind off of worrying about it. Disney doesn't HAVE to be a crazy 12hr day in blazing heat - you can do the more laid back trip which can be a ton of fun too. You can enjoy the resort, eat at great restaurants, actually stop and enjoy the place instead of running around on rides.

Also on a totally side note - there are many reports lately about taking a baby aspirin a day (after ovulation) for women who are at risk for MC. PLEASE do not take this information and do it but talk to your doctor about it to see what he/she thinks. My friend down the street has had 3 MC's and this last pregnancy she went to a specialist who prescribed a baby aspirin a day the first trimester and she has a wonderful baby boy now! My college roomate also has fertility problems and took a baby aspirin a day for 14wks while pregnant with her twins. Her RE said it helps keep the uterine lining clean and thick for implantation and helps a good forming placenta. Again I am not encouraging you to take it but it is something you could mention to your specialist and see if you are a candidate for it.

HTH and good luck with TTC - I know how hard it is but the reward at the end is a HUGE payoff!!

 

[GraysMom]

We TTC on our own for almost two years before getting pg with our first. I am a worrier by nature and I'm sure that added stress didn't help things. I ended up having surgery for endo, and doing Clomid w/IUI. We got pg during round 2 of Clomid/IUI which meant I was 7 weeks along for our Disney vacation (with DH, MIL, FIL, SIL and her family, plus DH's aunt, uncle, cousin and his friend). Since it was my first pg, I didn't know how my body would behave, especially in the end of June heat. We ended up driving down with my MIL and FIL (a lovely 18 hour car ride) which I do not recommend. Between stopping at lots of gas stations (yuck!), not knowing what kinds of restaurants would be available when I was hungry, and being stiff from not moving around much, it was not a fun way to start or end a vacation. While on the way to Disney I started to spot, which had me scared stiff that I would MC. The spotting continued on and off for the whole trip and really put a damper on my mood. I didn't ride any rides and most of the food just didn't look appetizing (and the smell of ANY food cooking made me more nauseaous). If I had to do it all over again I would wait to start TTC until we came home from Disney. I really wasn't able to enjoy it much and wondered what kind of bad feelings/memories would I associate with Disney if I ended up MC?

Good luck with TTC and I hope all goes well with whatever you decide .

GraysMom