I have something to say from yesterday. I am no means speaking for Robin. She spoke and can't do JUST FINE.
Obviously. And I was on my own wavelength and I really have no idea if we were on the same one. I will not assume.
I said what my issue was with the post that went back and forth.
However, this morning I have more to say about my thoughts.
Bigotry can happen to anyone.
However, the fact of the matter is the majority of bigotry is not against whites at all. Yes you can be white and poor - and white and overweight - and white and disabled - and white and gay etc. But regardless bigotry has an ugly history - AND TODAY - in North America against non-whites every single day.
And firedancer you posted the definition and how your example was not. I said of course not sometimes - but often it's cloaked in those kind of statements. That the cloaking is very common way of not owning up to our faults and issues.
So here's the kicker. It's like a shaking of the head moment for a white male or any white person to talk like they know the ins and outs - not to talk about it but to state that you know
what isn't bigotry.
It just is. Do you have a right to state your points? Feel your points? Debate it?
ABSOLUTELY.
But it's human to sigh about it on the other side. It is.
Am I hypocrite? Maybe. Because I stated my thoughts too. But I stated on the side that I know in my heart that there are many that don't really hate PDA in general - don't really like immigrants. Because I've listened intently. I've seen it face on. I've worked for years with black teenagers and other non-white students. I've heard their stories - I've seen it in action. And most importantly to this discussion heard the offenders comments being sugar coated with that kind of subtle talk - the kind we were discussing. (And this is where I want to say that I jump on issues that clearly not based in bigotry - as in I don't give me I'm racist you're late and I don't care if you're pink, purple or polka dotted you're late! - but late is not the same of what we were discussing)
At one point I thought I was gay. Unfortunately, I'm not.
. And I do mean unfortunately. So I've lived through my partner is "none of my business" but your husband and wife and girlfriend are? Endlessly. Sex included in theirs at times.
And I've seen gay students suffer in very subtle ways that you simply can not understand FULLY if you're not. We/You (in general terms) just can't.
But at the same time we are a continent of know it alls. We are. Myself included. We are a continent of non-listeners. I think it's one of the biggest issues in the world. We are so quick to state our opinions before full taking in the stories of those who actually face these issues every single day. That goes way beyond anything that we're talking about today. And you and I (including my story and possibly yours firedancer - I would never assume I know where you've walked) know little about bigotry compared to some others. Compared to. VERY LITTLE despite our stories because of our skin. And I think - and I don't speak for Robin - it stings for people to talk about it like they do know when it's not occuring - when they don't face it DAILY. That's a very human reaction.
It goes for everything.
I have a friend who lost her daughter in a car crash. I am so careful to simply hear her and not make any blanket statements. (I do screw up sometimes) I lost her too. I LOVED her and ache that she's not here but I do realize I know nada about being a mother who lost her baby girl. Nada. Therefore despite my pain I can never truly know.
I am all for discussing and open communication and I've already stated that I really feel until we admit and all our own issues and crap then nothing will change.
Okay, done.
And this is why I spend little time on the CB. I have no issue disagreeing and going back and forth. But I HATE when parts of my writing are taken out of context. Things I can't control but I hate regardless.