Did I donate enough?

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  1. Iforgetmypassword

    Iforgetmypassword "I am Mrs. Nesbit!!"

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    I also donate at Starbucks, so the hard-working employees can keep their jobs. In exchange, they give me a cup of coffee. Win-win!!
     
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  3. scrapquitler

    scrapquitler DIS Veteran

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    Donate more if you want to donate more, but please don't judge others on how much you see them donating. Perhaps that person drinking the Starbucks donated five coats and twelve toys at his church because he knows that the gifts from there will be donated to someone in his church. Just because you don't see the participating doesn't meant that they aren't. And even if they aren't, it's not really your business.

    Honestly, I get stretched thin this time of year with all the various charities asking for donations. I give some now, but I save the bulk of my donation budget for other times of year, especially the money I donate to the food bank...I have read so many times that they get so much food this time of year, but then during other times of the year (like in the summer) their shelves get very bare...so I make a point to make by biggest donation then. Maybe your coworkers are doing the same.
     
  4. Iforgetmypassword

    Iforgetmypassword "I am Mrs. Nesbit!!"

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    Surely, OP, there's some little luxury you could give up? Maybe give up your internet? Sell your computer or smart phone? You could donate that money.
     
  5. ashley0139

    ashley0139 DIS Veteran

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    Seriously. Thank you.
     
  6. kwelch10377

    kwelch10377 DIS Veteran

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    :thumbsup2

    Give what you can and feel comfortable with and don't worry about what your co-workers are doing with their money and how/if they choose to donate.
     
  7. Mkrop

    Mkrop <font color=coral>I just cant go on demand<br><fon

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    Not juding...but you can also donate at the Gap or the Children's Place or Sears, buy a hat or gloves, have those hard working people keep their jobs as well, and donate to the charity...that would be win-win-win!

    I seriously dont care what charity one chooses to donate to or not donate to but I feel comparing donating to buying a cup of coffee is silly to this discussion.
     
  8. Iforgetmypassword

    Iforgetmypassword "I am Mrs. Nesbit!!"

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    Perhaps you missed the sarcasm intended in my post. I'll be more direct: I spend my money as I choose. How my colleagues spend theirs is none of my business.
     
  9. NHdisneylover

    NHdisneylover DIS Veteran

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    Wow.How awful to try to force people nto donating like that--good for you and you and the other manager for refusing to be manipulated like that.:thumbsup2

    I am the same way. Between Christmas and 5 6 family birthdays (including both of our own kids) this tme of year we have little leftover--but we give about as much as we spend on the holdays during each other quarter of the year to organizations we care about and who can use the help year round :goodvibes
     
  10. Mkrop

    Mkrop <font color=coral>I just cant go on demand<br><fon

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    I didnt miss it...you can certainly choose to spend how you see fit I was just offering an alternative that inluded 3 wins!;)
     
  11. sissy_ib

    sissy_ib DIS Veteran

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    Why? Why should they go donate money instead of buying a coffee? You do what you want and let others do as they see fit. Do you not think anyone who goes to Starbucks daily donated anything? Do you not have any extras in your life? If so, by your logic you better give them up and go buy piles of mittens instead.
     
  12. crashbb

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    Except for PP, who didn't get her coffee.

    I agree with the PP (and others) - donate where and how you want and stop "offering alternatives" to others (i.e. a nice way of judging) about how they spend their money.
     
  13. Mkrop

    Mkrop <font color=coral>I just cant go on demand<br><fon

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    Holy mackeral, I wasnt saying that at all. Give how you see fit! Give mittens, give $ to another, donate food to another I dont care what you do or how you give. I was responding that you can also help employees by buying the mittens just as much as the poster says he is helping the employees of Starbucks and stimulate the economy by doing either. I was being sarcastic right back but I guess I failed for both of you.

    But yes I do see Starbucks as unnecessary indulgence, you can get a coffee much cheaper and put that money toward hats and gloves. One cup of coffee is not that much of a sacrifice. BUT I would never tell anyone but my own family how to spend or donate their money. And by this I might suggest to my DH he not stop at his local coffee place(he hates Starbucks) and take one from home if that means he could contribute to a good cause. I would never say that to my coworker or friend though.
     
  14. Gumbo4x4

    Gumbo4x4 Note to the ladies who forgot to

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    Don't know if I missed it or not, but is your donation bin out in the open where the public can contribute?
     
  15. dogluva

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    I resent when people try to tell me how to spend my money. I donate who I want to and when I want to. Period. I don't care if the whole company is donating. Also, I don't like people telling what I can and can't afford. If I want to buy take-out three meals day, that is nobodys business. We were TOLD by our supervisor to donate one dollar to a local charity. We were not asked. I was so offended. It is not about the money, it is someone else picking and choosing who I should donate to.

    OP, stop judging other people buy their Starbucks purchases. It is not your business what they buy with THEIR money. You buy all the mittens and scarves you want. It seems like you want others to tell you what a wonderful person you are. I could be wrong but your post rubbed me the wrong way.

    Donate because it makes you feel good not because you want people to think better of you. Humility goes a long way.
     
  16. Gumbo4x4

    Gumbo4x4 Note to the ladies who forgot to

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    I had a previous boss who was on the United Way board. We had always donated previously, but his heavy handed guilt tactics were too much for a LOT of folks and many of us started donating zero as a result.
     
  17. marlynnp

    marlynnp No take backs, bowing out or other weenie manuever

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    How many mittens could one buy if they only took 1 trip to Disney a year? :rolleyes:
     
  18. Iforgetmypassword

    Iforgetmypassword "I am Mrs. Nesbit!!"

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    See, I see a DVC membership as an unnecessary indulgence. I own a few timeshares, bought them for $1 each. Not the thousands that a DVC owner spent. How much money is spent unnecessarily on multiple trips to Disney World? You could have bought a timeshare much cheaper and put that money toward hats and gloves.
     
  19. Amy&Dan

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    You donated quite nicely, if you want to donate more, then do so as long as you can afford it.

    As for your co workers, as others have said, you have no idea what they have donated to other charities or what their situation is. They might have family members in need, they might have other charities they donate to, they might have all they can handle paying their bills and clothing their children. That cup of coffee you seem to begrudge them might be the one thing that keeps them sane and happy. You just don't know.

    My work has a donations box for toys that will be donated to a worthy cause. I haven't put one in and won't simply because I am doing a couple of toys for Toys for Tots. If I come in carrying a Starbucks one time too many but no toy, I hope my co workers won't judge me harsly.
     
  20. crashbb

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    Of course, you're not judging, just offering an alternate suggestion :P

    Our office has also become quite heavy handed about United Way. The way that they (well the few people on the committee) approach it has definitely caused me not to donate to the campaign. And, no, I really don't care what they think (since one of the fundraisers is a "dress down" month, it is pretty obvious).
     
  21. Ceila

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    OP, why are you assuming that those who buy a Starbucks aren't donating because of the cost of their coffee? Maybe they just don't choose to donate to that particular charity. Maybe they just haven't brought stuff in yet. No matter what, it's none of your business. Donate what you want, don't brag, and MYOB when it comes to your co-workers.
     

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