CathrynRose
<font color=brown>R.I.P. Possibly Un-PC Tag, R.I.P
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- Oct 5, 2005
So glad you two are the minority. Much easier to bow to hubby than look for solutions and stand your ground. Besides- there ARE shelters for all the tossed out pets, right?
I hope the kids don't become too much work.
Her husband is not a whiny baby. Puppies are alot of work. I can completely understand how someone who is working full time and going to college does not want anymore on his plate. Maybe he didn't realize until he got the puppy how much work it was going to be. Things happen. He isn't throwing the puppy away. He wants to sell it to someone who could provide it a loving home.
You don't have to keep your pet for life. You do have to find it another good home if you decide you can't keep it. Pets are extremely expensive especially puppies. In today's economy I am surprised anyone is still buying these puppies.
I hope the kids don't become too much work.
yes there are shelters.
i usually stay away from pet threads because i know how passionate people here on the DIS get about them. but what if the dh realized he just doesn't like pets. and yes, pets ARE different than kids, you can't compare them. THerefore, the comparison of what if after a baby was born he decided he didn't want him/her is ridiculous. maybe dh didn't realize all of the work that went into them, who knows?
how is finding a home where the dog is wanted bowing to the husband? a pet is a huge responsibility. sounds like the dog is just going to cause problems for the family so why drag it out anymore? if the kids aren't helping out and the dh doesn't have the time for the dog or the dog doesn't take to dh, why should they have to keep the dog rather than find a loving home? this isn't a case of just wussing out and giving in to the dh. find another home, bring the dog to a shelter or return it to where it was purchased.
You mentioned maybe $$ being a factor. OP, you mentioned that you had to save up for the dog and food and supplies I believe. maybe your dh didn't realize how expensive dogs are and realizes maybe you can't afford it and possibly feels guilty about it? maybe he was using the excuse of the dog being too much because he feels guilty about the monetary responsibility? we are we so quick to hang the dh here and accuse to op of just giving in to her dh?
I am hoping you decide to never have a pet/s.
I have a dog which I love and would do anything for, but he is last in our house. People first. If my husband didn't want him anymore or the kids were afraid of him etc, I would find him a good home. He is an animal. I would cry and move on. I find it insane that people give advice about treating the husband poorly and nobody blinks. It is okay to kick your husband to the curb but god forbid you decide to get rid of your pet.
Dave, What about the OP's right to keep the dog that she wants and her DH agreed to before they even brought him home?
It already sounds like she is doing all the work involving the dog.
She should get rid of it because he is the man and what he says goes?
TC
Agree totally. They agreed on getting a pet. Sounds like the OP gladly handles most of the pet care burden already, and DH has decided that doggie has to go because HE can't put up with a small share of the responsibility. Not a good reason to get rid of an innocent animal.Pets are different in the fact that thet are easier than kids, not that they are disposable. They AGREED on the pet. She is in tears over it. She needs to stand her ground here. DH does not need to get all his whims catered to. Maybe next week he will decide he wants a horse.
Dave, What about the OP's right to keep the dog that she wants and her DH agreed to before they even brought him home?
It already sounds like she is doing all the work involving the dog.
She should get rid of it because he is the man and what he says goes?
TC
Agree totally. They agreed on getting a pet. Sounds like the OP gladly handles most of the pet care burden already, and DH has decided that doggie has to go because HE can't put up with a small share of the responsibility. Not a good reason to get rid of an innocent animal.
Well I am always about keeping the peace and not causing waves so I'd say 90% of the time I give in about pretty much everything. About this issue I've decided it's gonna be in that 10%! I let him know that I was not selling MY dog, I love her and this is an issue that is very, very important to me.
He said "I don't know", and my reply was "NO! We will work through any weekend issues you may be having with her, come up with solutions, and we'll compromise on things if needed but I AM NOT SELLING HER!!".
He replied with "ok". So I'm not sure if that OK means ok for now so I'll leave him alone or ok, you win, we won't get rid of her.
Guess I'll find out but I am not backing down on this and if he does sell her without my blessing then yes, we have some major issues that are going to need to be addressed.
I am praying he sees how important this is to me and just sucks it up and deals with it...UGH, I feel sick to my stomach now.