.......As to fear of molestation, I think that again it is a very remote possiblity.......
........AND I think that the media would be publishing reports if this did indeed happen with any frequency......
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I make no bones that I am a hyper-protective parent but a comment like this is a bit silly.....even ONE incident is TOO frequent regardless of whose child it is. My child is my LIFE and my job as a parent is to protect her to the best of my ability regardless of how remote any potential harm to her may be.
Yes, there is always a 'chance' of something bad happening if a child is seated apart from his/her parent. Does it happen? I guess it has, but not very often. And yes, I'm sure that once was more than enough for that child or the parent. I am not trying to play that down.
I put my then 7 y/o ds on a plane in Boston, to be met in Florida by my then 22 y/o brother. That was back in 1980. Would I do that again? Not on your life. To this day, I am still not sure what I was thinking!!
Why in the world would a solo traveller EVER not be willing to trade their seat so a child could sit with a parent?
It depends. You've gotten most of the reasons already. Let me relate a story...it's been told before so I apologize to those who have read it many times.
I was flying to WDW, on SW, with my dd, then about 12 or so. We got to the airport nice and early. Had checked in and gotten A boarding passes...back when you had to line up in each group corral. We took out spots in line, about 8 people back from the front of the line...then waited for about an hour or so to board. We watched this one mom walking around with her young son...back and forth, up and down the gate area. We finally boarded. My dd and I got our usual middle and window seats. Well, all the preboards had boarded....by the time we boarded, we had to head to behind the wing..many preboards had started saving seats (neither here nor there anymore). The A's all get on, then the B's start. Now, it's towards the end of the B's and people are having trouble finding rows of seats open so their entire family can be seated in close proximity. So, they start splitting up. Then the C's board. Okay...everyone is seated, the flight is very full...there are a few emtpy seats scattered around the plane..none together or even close. We figure we are going to pull back, but no....the aforementioned mom and her ds come running up the jetway....and of course, there are no seats together. Now...remember..this is a flight to Orlando. Most of the travelers are families, heading off to a fun time in the parks. The FA makes the dread announcement...I need some people to move their seats in order for this mother to be seated with her child. Not one person moved. Okay, the FA has another announcement for us...'This plane is not moving away from the gate until this mother and child are seated together!" It took another 5 mins before a nice couple said they would take seats apart from each other so the mother could be seated with her child.
Now...my issue is this...why didn't that mother preboard with the other families? Why didn't she checkin online in order to get an A boarding pass? Why in heaven's name did she remain in the gate area, walking around while others boarded? I'm sure she figured she would be able to get seats together.
I book SW when it doesn't matter a ton where I'm seated. But, I checkin early, so I know that my child and I will be together. I book the legacy airlines and get to choose my seats when booking. But...I know full well that those seating assignments can, and do, change. I keep checking my itineraries, right up until that flight leaves!!!
Most of us book what we need....it may not be apparent to others why we have chosen the seat(s) we have chosen. I resent it like crazy when someone comes along and tells me I'm selfish for not offering to change seats.
I have a 35 y/o ds, a 32 y/o dd and an almost 15 y/o dd.....I was much more lax when the two eldest were young. Now...I'm a suspicious, cranky mother who probably overprotects her child. But, if I choose to book our seats together, then that's how it's gonna be. I am NOT moving so that someone who didn't do their homework can sit with their child.
Now....to the OP, yes, sometimes stuff happens that the traveler isn't able to foresee...as in your case. You did what you are supposed to do...the airlines messed up. They will, in all probability, make good for you. I'm pretty sure you and your youngsters will be able to be seated together...just get to the gate early.