Christine
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Aug 31, 1999
OP--I understand you wanting to give people second chances. In reading your post, I sort of feel that way too. I mean, man, I don't know if personally I could handle his past; however, I feel bad for writing people off when they are really trying to come out of it. So there's THAT rub...
Having said that, I am always amazed at how quickly people progress in new relationships. Now, I haven't dated in 28 years and I'm not sure how I would handle the dating scene as a much older adult. Most of the information I get on people dating is either reading their experiences on the DIS or from a few people I know at work. I think it is astounding how fast people progress with this online dating stuff. I mean, you had one date with man (and then a few more over the next week) and I feel like he dumped his whole world on you. He is asking WAY too much of you and you don't know him. Quite honestly, I think it should have been a few months of seeing each other before he even asked you to drive him anywhere.
So, THAT part is my red flag. I don't like it and I think it is terribly wrong of him to impose on you so soon. That's the biggest red flag and warning sign.
Having said that, I am always amazed at how quickly people progress in new relationships. Now, I haven't dated in 28 years and I'm not sure how I would handle the dating scene as a much older adult. Most of the information I get on people dating is either reading their experiences on the DIS or from a few people I know at work. I think it is astounding how fast people progress with this online dating stuff. I mean, you had one date with man (and then a few more over the next week) and I feel like he dumped his whole world on you. He is asking WAY too much of you and you don't know him. Quite honestly, I think it should have been a few months of seeing each other before he even asked you to drive him anywhere.
So, THAT part is my red flag. I don't like it and I think it is terribly wrong of him to impose on you so soon. That's the biggest red flag and warning sign.