You are getting new posters just for this thread and those with very emotional or strong responses because this is a very serious topic concerning the safety of families, ending the baby selling industry (which is very much legal in the US when labeled adoption) and just all around basic human rights. It is very important that the general public (society) understand the truth, so Im just going to go ahead and cover everything in one post then be on my way. Let me start by saying this is STILL happening TODAY. It happened to me in 1991.
No human being on this planet should have ANY of their basic human rights ripped from them. It doesn't matter if you are a teenager, unmarried or poor. All people deserve every chance to raise their children and all children deserve every chance to grow up in a happy, healthy home with their own flesh and blood. Women of that era were treated in horrific ways. They were silenced, shamed, bullied, marginalized, used and tossed away. All they needed was honesty and a chance. All they needed was support and guidance. Ripping babies away from their mothers is not in any way human, let alone legal. No one owes some richer married couple their child just because said couple is infertile. No one deserves to lose their baby just because they are poor.
It was and still is society and a lack of regulation in human rights/human protection (ie: baby napping and baby selling) that caused this atrocity. This is about the TRUTH finally being told. This is about justice. This about change to a better world where families stay together and citizens have a chance to prosper happily, thereby creating a happier, healthier, more productive, more humane and civilized world for everyone.
Have you ever had sex? Ever been in love? Ever gotten pregnant? Have you ever had sex with no protection but got "lucky" in not getting pregnant? Have you ever been separated from your parents, your family, your history, your roots? Have you ever had your baby taken from your arms while you cry and beg to keep him/her? While your heart shatters in the despair that you didn't have the support or help to be the mother you longed to be? Have you ever had to go through your whole life not knowing who you are and having those basic human rights (and primal human needs) marginalized and dismissed? Have you ever had to spend 20, 30, 50 years aching for your child, worrying about your child, suffering depression day in and day out for the LOSS of that child? Unnfounded assertions and blind judgment are at best ignorant/stunted
psychologically & emotionally inhuman.
Approximately 97% of mothers who lost their children to adoption were forced in one way or the other (usually many more than one way).This is also true today, which I cannot stress enough. It is the very rare minority that actually wants to give up their baby to strangers and who have done so with fully informed consent. THAT is illegal and a major human rights violation on so many levels.
The burden on the welfare system is simply not a valid argument. Any burden on the system is due to the way the system is designed and the lack of support/resources that can make a lasting difference for families for generations to come and in that, less burden on the system as time goes on. Its really rather simple. However, I will not detour much into that since the most glaring issue with this argument is the underhanded assertion that poor people (or young or unmarried) are not entitled to raise their own children; as if by being poor one is somehow subhuman or unworthy to parent his/her offspring. This is not a new view, especially in the adoption industry, however repugnant.
There are far too many lies, deceit and secrets in the adoption industry. And it is all surrounded by big business (then and now).The PAPs havent dealt with their infertility so they want to live in denial of it. They want to live in rainbow-farting unicorn land where they pretend the adoptee is born to them (breeds need for INFANTS=coercive tactics to make that sale!) If the adoption agency cant promise them they are 100% legally the parents (including altering the OBC &sealing files from the rightful owners of said files) and the natural family cant/wont interfere then those PAPs wont pay upwards of $30,000 (FACT & nothing short of baby selling on the backs of poor/frightened/beaten down young mothers) for their pretend offspring.
Please note: Sealing these records does not now and NEVER HAS had anything to do with promising mothers confidentiality of any kind. The idea that natural parents have ever been promised confidentiality is a FALSEHOOD. Its just another smokescreen to get the ignorant masses into a political frenzy about something they know nothing about though it is high time people start paying attention because you are all perpetuating the abuse of power, human rights violations out the wazoo, and a blight on our country as huge as slavery and I dare say, even genocide.
In the event that an adoption absolutely HAS to take place I do not think the childs name should be changed, nor should the childs birth certificate be altered & most certainly no files should be sealed from the child once he/she is an adult. Government MUST get involved in this-conduct a thorough inquiry & make serious changes to protect its citizens/families. $$$ should be taken out of the equation. No one should be able to run a business where they profit from the sale of human beings! Adoption should be outlawed completely & a kind of guardianship or permanent custody used in the cases that are absolutely 100%unavoidable. There is zero reason for secrecy when all is on the up and up, as they say.
And in closing, 3 other points Id like to note:
1) no one wants to have a child just to hand it over to someone else. it is devastating. any woman who has given birth knows this. Abortion and adoption have NOTHING to do with each other. *This is NOT about the abortion debate.
2) another issue with all this baby selling secrecy is the need to know if you are about to marry and procreate with your sibling! can we please return to some level of common sense and human decency?
3)Losing your mother is devastating...losing your child is devastating. This is a life-long trauma that is rarely healed, ESPECIALLY when it comes to forced adoptions. How anyone can be blind to this is beyond my comprehension.
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There's plenty of information and facts there in the form of links in the sidebar.
Better yet, don't trust me, do some research on your own. We all must educate ourselves before we go judging others and participating in atrocious injustices we'd never want to experience ourselves.