Jeff in BigD
Oldschool DISer
- Joined
- Aug 18, 1999
I don't know if this has been brought up, but maybe the kid really doesn't want to play soccer? It wouldn't be the first time that a parent chucked a kid into a sport s/he really didn't have an interest in.
Since he's 12, he's likely to be a lot more honest than a younger child about whether he wants to play or not.
If the kid isn't interested, I would figure out some refund (especially since the mom seems like a headache) & call it a day.
If the kid is genuinely interested, then figure out what his goals are & give him steps to achieve that.
Negative reinforcement clearly isn't working. Unfortunately the drill-instructor M.O. is the only mode that some coaches have, so maybe a team with a coach that is more encouraging might be a better fit?
I'm not saying to coddle the kid, throwing in some positive reinforcement while trying to critique might make the difference.
Since he's 12, he's likely to be a lot more honest than a younger child about whether he wants to play or not.
If the kid isn't interested, I would figure out some refund (especially since the mom seems like a headache) & call it a day.
If the kid is genuinely interested, then figure out what his goals are & give him steps to achieve that.
Negative reinforcement clearly isn't working. Unfortunately the drill-instructor M.O. is the only mode that some coaches have, so maybe a team with a coach that is more encouraging might be a better fit?
I'm not saying to coddle the kid, throwing in some positive reinforcement while trying to critique might make the difference.