In 1987 when I graduated from High School, my parents basically told me, "If you go to college directly out of High School, we will help pay for it. If you choose to take time off, we won't..." I chose the latter path and eventually graduated from college with a BS in 2000. Ultimately during those very busy years between beginning college and graduating, I was working a full-time job, going to college full-time AND raising a child solo while maintaining a household. I was a single mom who was very fortunate to receive pell grants and student loans to help pay for my college...(finally paid off in 2011! Yay!) I never received nor expected monetary help from my parents for my college education. Most of my friends paid for their own college educations, as well. My son is currently a freshman at our flagship state university, and I intend to help him out financially as best as I can. I certainly don't want to see him struggle financially, yet I truly believe that his working a part-time job while maintaining a strong GPA will benefit him, and that he should strive to meet his goals primarily on his own. He received a small student loan for the year ($5500, while tuition/room & board is approx. $22,000), so the rest is financed with loans and money previously set aside by us. Boy, that set-aside money sure doesn't go far! I'd love to be able to pay his way through college, but it's not feasible. Good for those of you who can afford to pay for your kid's college education and for those of you who have had parents who could afford to pay for yours... it's not in the cards for everybody.