Becc1
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- Aug 2, 2010
My DS 17, almost 18 has never had a serious girlfriend. He's had a couple of girls that he's dated off and on but nothing serious where he would consider them his girlfriend. The past couple months, since they graduated in May, he has been spending a lot of time with this girl who lives in our court. He has been friends with her for years, she's the only girl their age around here so she's always hung out with the guys. Lately though she's been coming over by herself. They have also been going out a lot lately, the movies, dinners, Six Flags, even an Orioles game.
Here's the problem, she has a boyfriend. I knew she was dating someone a couple months ago but I figured since her and DS have been doing all of these things together that she had broken up with her boyfriend. My niece was hanging out with them a couple of weeks ago and the girl told her she had a boyfriend. So my DS knows this but keeps doing all of this stuff with her because its obvious that he likes her, by the way, he is paying for all of these outings, including the $200 day at the ballpark. Now my DS and I have a very open relationship, he tells me way more than any teen probably should tell their parents but the one topic we don't discuss is girls. I feel like this girl is using him, i don't want him to get his heart broken but I don't feel it's my place to say anything. I know I didn't want to hear love advice from my parents at his age but I do feel like we have a different relationship than me and my parents did. My DH agrees and says we need to let him figure it out on his own but it's just so hard. He seems to totally be stuck in the "friend zone" but doesn't realize it. Sorry to vent, it's just so hard to keep quiet when I'm watching him bring her lunches to work or take her places. Just a little bit ago her was asking me about an Italian restaurant in Little Italy he was thinking go going to, apparently they are going down to Baltimore tomorrow
Here's the problem, she has a boyfriend. I knew she was dating someone a couple months ago but I figured since her and DS have been doing all of these things together that she had broken up with her boyfriend. My niece was hanging out with them a couple of weeks ago and the girl told her she had a boyfriend. So my DS knows this but keeps doing all of this stuff with her because its obvious that he likes her, by the way, he is paying for all of these outings, including the $200 day at the ballpark. Now my DS and I have a very open relationship, he tells me way more than any teen probably should tell their parents but the one topic we don't discuss is girls. I feel like this girl is using him, i don't want him to get his heart broken but I don't feel it's my place to say anything. I know I didn't want to hear love advice from my parents at his age but I do feel like we have a different relationship than me and my parents did. My DH agrees and says we need to let him figure it out on his own but it's just so hard. He seems to totally be stuck in the "friend zone" but doesn't realize it. Sorry to vent, it's just so hard to keep quiet when I'm watching him bring her lunches to work or take her places. Just a little bit ago her was asking me about an Italian restaurant in Little Italy he was thinking go going to, apparently they are going down to Baltimore tomorrow