It is great and fab. ideas for celebrating birthdays without all the hoopla and $$$$$. My kids loved this!!
birthdayswithoutpressure.org
It looks like a nice, informative website, but I question why anyone would be concerned about what kind of birthday party I decide to give for my child. Isn't that my decision?
Granted, I don't do "over-the-top," as they put it, but I certainly don't judge those who do.
That site is crazy.
No one is forcing parents to have big parties. I don't understand adults who can't say no. Who cares if everyone around you is doing something. If you can't afford it or don't want to do it, then don't.
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My standard disclaimer: I am 50 so I'm older, also I'm having gift issues from greedy relatives.
I have never understood this new idea of having birthday parties that rival state celebrations. I know parents who have gone into 10,000 debt for a daughters sweet 16. The kid is turning 16! She did not win the nobel prize for Physics. We celebrate mediocracy and can't understand why our kids have "entitlement" issues.
I have one coworker who's family has a rule of "homemade" birthday gifts. Awesome.
Does anyone simply have a cake and invite the grandparents over anymore? LOL
The thing that pisses me off is that they expect the guest then to drop big bucks on the kid for a gift.
Our parties seem to get a little bigger every year, but never crazy extravagant. This year I decided to set a new example on my birthday - not really to change their minds, but just to show a different aspect. I told my kids I only wanted them to take the money they could afford for a gift (no borrowing from daddy) and give it to a charity that made them think of me and then write me a letter telling me why they chose their charity.
DH struggled with this and even tried to get them to donate more, but they understood the rules. I told him he could buy a gift because he is a natural giver and it would have been cruel to not let him give. The kids amazed me DD(8) gave to an organiztion that collects money for babies - because I love babies, DS (8) gave to an organization that gives food to the poor, because I always make sure they eat. DS(17) said he really enjoyed this and thought it was a great idea - he gave to an organization that provide music instruments to lower income faimlies, because music changes lives.
is my family the only one that doesn't even have parties for birthdays?
Sure the kids get a gift and cake or whatever they want at dinner, but we don't even invite over the grandparents...
We had a party for their First Birthday with the grands, aunts and uncles. (Still just dinner at the house with cake and ice cream, nothing special.) Over the years since then, DD had one daytime party with friends that included games and goodie bags. DS had one bowling party with friends.
Other than that, they might invite a couple friends for the night, like DS10 did last week. We went out for pizza, had ice cream cake and let them pig out on chips and pop. They ran around the house all night playing tag and hide and seek, Nerf war, whatever. Had pancakes for breakfast and played until their parents came.
Am I missing something??
To the OP, sorry if I sound critical. This really wasn't aimed at you, but I just realized it might come across that way. I love when I find websites that give me unique and inexpensive ideas for my day care kids, etc. So I do get that. I guess I'm just feeling a little defensive since I'm so far at the other end of the spectrum.
My standard disclaimer: I am 50 so I'm older, also I'm having gift issues from greedy relatives.
I have never understood this new idea of having birthday parties that rival state celebrations. I know parents who have gone into 10,000 debt for a daughters sweet 16. The kid is turning 16! She did not win the nobel prize for Physics. We celebrate mediocracy and can't understand why our kids have "entitlement" issues.
I have one coworker who's family has a rule of "homemade" birthday gifts. Awesome.
Does anyone simply have a cake and invite the grandparents over anymore? LOL
The thing that pisses me off is that they expect the guest then to drop big bucks on the kid for a gift.
You aren't the only one. I let my kids choose either a party (reasonable, though, like $125 or less) OR a gift. Never EVER both.
Does anyone else think this thread could become a contest of who can do the least amount for their kids birthday?
I guess it COULD, although I hope not. We just do what we like, and the kids haven't ever complained. We still have a cake, and the birthday child chooses dinner (sometimes something I cook, sometimes a restaurant). And at the restaurant, if the birthday kid gets a freebie dessert, I do not buy all the other kids dessert too. (We have that cake waiting at home, lol).
Some family members do huge birthday bashes for their kids. We think that's great, they like their parties.
So no, I hope this doesn't turn into a do-the-least thread. We do our thing, others do theirs. Our kids enjoy their birthday, and the partiers enjoy theirs.
Our parties seem to get a little bigger every year, but never crazy extravagant. This year I decided to set a new example on my birthday - not really to change their minds, but just to show a different aspect. I told my kids I only wanted them to take the money they could afford for a gift (no borrowing from daddy) and give it to a charity that made them think of me and then write me a letter telling me why they chose their charity.
DH struggled with this and even tried to get them to donate more, but they understood the rules. I told him he could buy a gift because he is a natural giver and it would have been cruel to not let him give. The kids amazed me DD(8) gave to an organiztion that collects money for babies - because I love babies, DS (8) gave to an organization that gives food to the poor, because I always make sure they eat. DS(17) said he really enjoyed this and thought it was a great idea - he gave to an organization that provide music instruments to lower income faimlies, because music changes lives.