NO we didn't. I would never expect a vegan or vegetarian to offer a meat option to please my tastes. I would never expect a seafood lover to offer a non-seafood option because a wedding is truly about the bride and groom.
So sad to read so many posts from people only thinking about what is in it for them instead of giving from your heart of your time or of a material gift with no thought for a reward. It is almost like people feel or are saying they are owed something for their time or gift.
I'm sorry, but the irony of this post is killing me, because the sentiment of the first paragraph directly contradicts the sentiment of the second. The first paragraph implies that guests owe the bride and groom something because those special stars of the day deigned to invite them into their rarefied atmosphere: awe, perhaps?
NOWHERE is it written that you must have a party to get married. the CEREMONY is supposed to be the part that is special to the bride and groom; the party is just a nice something extra. People all over the world get married every day in church vestries and judges chambers with only a couple of witnesses present, and those wedding days are every bit as sacred and special as the biggest hotel bash.
I don't care what kind of party it is, from a potluck on up to the most exclusive venue in the world; if you are the host it is your responsibility to put the comfort and enjoyment of your guests first on your priority list. (Notice that I didn't say their
expectations should come first; you provide what you can afford and what your religion/belief system permits you to provide, but you do so with the guests' comfort paramount in your mind.)
Where I come from, we have a tradition called a Bride's Box, which is a lovely picnic-type box containing a full meal for 2 and extra treats, that is set aside by the caterer and sent to the bride and groom's hotel to be waiting for them after the reception. We do this because we don't have a cultural tradition of having the wedding party sit at a head table; we have a tradition that the bridal couple spend the majority of the reception on their feet circulating and personally greeting each guest and taking a bit of time to talk with them and thank them for coming. When you do that you don't get to take time to eat, so by the time the party is over you're starved, but the guests are not, and they go home knowing that you were touched that they took the time out of their busy lives to come and celebrate your wedding day.
PS: I just remembered this thread from a while back, where someone asked about what makes a wedding pleasantly memorable from a guest's perspective. It's a good one:
http://disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2969065