You're doing the right thing by not involving your girls in the drama. I agree with pp that you should just tell them that he said it wasn't a good time to talk. I am the product of a very!! bitter divorce, neither my mother or father held their tongues about their opinions of each other, and it influenced my relationships with both of them. I just got sick of hearing it. I also completely understand where you're coming from as I'm divorced as well, and my ex-hub is also a first class *insert select word here*. I always take the high road because of my experiences with my parents. It's impossible to take them back to court for every small violation, but I do keep a journal also, and would highly recommend it to you. *hug*