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- Aug 3, 2004
You as a parent can choose what you wish, it doesn't make you any better than the parent next door.. Judging other parents, as you do, and write it here, actually makes you worse, in my opinion.. It sounds very petty..
I grew up VERY poor... Divorced parents, the whole 9 yards.. I had (and still Do) an extremely rich best friend.... She had the car, as you judge entitled, the everything.. She was awesome though.. She helped me out, my Mom as well, getting groceries etc. we had no car...They actually were millionaires, but I never realized it when I was young, they acted like everyone else.. I was blessed, and still am to have such a good best friend.
To me THE ONLY job a child that young should have is to go to school, to get an education, NOT to worry about paying Mom or Dad back.. Jobs come later.. The phone my 15 year old Daughter has that we pay for, is as much for me as for her.. I want to know she has arrived to school safely, after all she takes the bus, the metro (subway) and goes to private school, so it is at the other end of the city.. She actually wants a part time job at the age of 16, but she won't be paying her cell..
My son is 18, in College, we gave him a car, pay his cell, insurance.. He pays his gas, he works part time at McDonald's... His FULL TIME job is to get an education...
See, the one thing I KNEW I wanted was for my children to have MORE than what I had... To have what I didn't.. That to me is what all parents should want for their children.. More than what we had.. I want them to have EVERY opportunity to make it.. I will go without so they have... Everything my husband and I have is theirs when we die anyway.. I guess it is MUCH different in my house than yours.. My purse is there, my wallet is there.. The kids know if they need to take what they need.. I honestly can say that that never happens very often...
I grew up VERY poor... Divorced parents, the whole 9 yards.. I had (and still Do) an extremely rich best friend.... She had the car, as you judge entitled, the everything.. She was awesome though.. She helped me out, my Mom as well, getting groceries etc. we had no car...They actually were millionaires, but I never realized it when I was young, they acted like everyone else.. I was blessed, and still am to have such a good best friend.
To me THE ONLY job a child that young should have is to go to school, to get an education, NOT to worry about paying Mom or Dad back.. Jobs come later.. The phone my 15 year old Daughter has that we pay for, is as much for me as for her.. I want to know she has arrived to school safely, after all she takes the bus, the metro (subway) and goes to private school, so it is at the other end of the city.. She actually wants a part time job at the age of 16, but she won't be paying her cell..
My son is 18, in College, we gave him a car, pay his cell, insurance.. He pays his gas, he works part time at McDonald's... His FULL TIME job is to get an education...
See, the one thing I KNEW I wanted was for my children to have MORE than what I had... To have what I didn't.. That to me is what all parents should want for their children.. More than what we had.. I want them to have EVERY opportunity to make it.. I will go without so they have... Everything my husband and I have is theirs when we die anyway.. I guess it is MUCH different in my house than yours.. My purse is there, my wallet is there.. The kids know if they need to take what they need.. I honestly can say that that never happens very often...