DonaldnDaisy5
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Tell me how do you set boundaries how do you react when boundaries have been crossed?
Tell me how do you set boundaries how do you react when boundaries have been crossed?
Boundaries? Boundaries in reference to what?
OMG yes!It sounds like a bad interview question.
The reaction depends on what boundary was crossed.
For things like a topic that is considered no no what seems to work for me is diverting the topic to something else or in the case of some things "we're not going to talk about this" and keep saying that.
For things like behaviors distancing can work and sometimes like a PP said that means no contact short-term or permanent.
It probably would help if there was more information given especially if the persons are family as that can change the advice given. Things like distancing can be hard if for instance you live with said family or you're having frequent contact by necessity, etc.
lol I see what you did thereMackenzie....I completely agree with you on this one . More information would be helpful in order to answer the question.
I think this is great advice if you're talking about a social circle type situation, like coworkers or just friends. It's not exactly the same when you're talking about family. Generally you're not concerned about being the popular or most liked in that situation.Well, OP, not sure exactly what you're talking about and some specifics would help, but it's rare that I ever feel like anyone is overstepping on me. Maybe I have a considerate family and friend network but I doubt I'm that lucky. I chalk it up to being able to absolutely tell someone "NO" with no qualms. I'm not overly concerned if someone gets upset with me, I don't care if I'm "popular", and I just don't have made it clear as nicely as I can that I won't do things I don't want to do or allow people to walk all over me.
I wasn't always like this--much more of a pushover in my 20s, but I came around quick and just kind of grew a fairly strong spine. But yeah, I'm not always the most popular of the group because of it, lol!