momz
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- Nov 1, 2005
A couple of weeks ago, I had another mother approach me and say, "did you know your daughter has a crush on my son?"
Ok, this is awkward because my DD is 14 and her son is 15. So, none of my business and also, these things change at the drop of a hat anyway.
The answer to the question is "yes", except that the crush had ended weeks ago because her DS was a complete jerk to DD. They are in a theater group together. This group has 4 times the number of girls as boys and maybe a third of the boys swing the other way anyway, leaving just a few boys to catch the eye of a LOT of girls. So, it isn't any surprise that this particular boy has gotten some attention.
So, anyway, I got the feeling that this other mother wanted to gossip about it. I didn't exactly want to tell her what DD had said to me about the situation, and I also felt like it was not appropriate for me to be meddling. DD trusted me to tell me how she felt about this boy, and I wasn't about to disrespect that trust.
I told the mother that DD has been talking with a boy from her school (true), and I thought that her crush on this woman's son was waning. This woman continued to say things like, how cute they are, yada yada yada.
now, a couple of weeks later, the woman seems to have found another family to meddle with. It appears there is another girl in the same group who has a crush on him now, and these 2 moms are all about meddling to get their kids together. They recently became friends on facebook and they have both been posting pictures of these to love birds.
In the end, I'm really glad I kept that conversation as short as short as possible. It just feels strange to me to be conniving with another mother to try to play match maker. I also think its silly because "love" at this age changes it's definition by the day.
Also, my DD would be mortified if there was any hint that I had been talking with a boys mother to work toward getting them together, much less posting pictures of them on facebook.
It just seems really weird.
Ok, this is awkward because my DD is 14 and her son is 15. So, none of my business and also, these things change at the drop of a hat anyway.
The answer to the question is "yes", except that the crush had ended weeks ago because her DS was a complete jerk to DD. They are in a theater group together. This group has 4 times the number of girls as boys and maybe a third of the boys swing the other way anyway, leaving just a few boys to catch the eye of a LOT of girls. So, it isn't any surprise that this particular boy has gotten some attention.
So, anyway, I got the feeling that this other mother wanted to gossip about it. I didn't exactly want to tell her what DD had said to me about the situation, and I also felt like it was not appropriate for me to be meddling. DD trusted me to tell me how she felt about this boy, and I wasn't about to disrespect that trust.
I told the mother that DD has been talking with a boy from her school (true), and I thought that her crush on this woman's son was waning. This woman continued to say things like, how cute they are, yada yada yada.
now, a couple of weeks later, the woman seems to have found another family to meddle with. It appears there is another girl in the same group who has a crush on him now, and these 2 moms are all about meddling to get their kids together. They recently became friends on facebook and they have both been posting pictures of these to love birds.
In the end, I'm really glad I kept that conversation as short as short as possible. It just feels strange to me to be conniving with another mother to try to play match maker. I also think its silly because "love" at this age changes it's definition by the day.
Also, my DD would be mortified if there was any hint that I had been talking with a boys mother to work toward getting them together, much less posting pictures of them on facebook.
It just seems really weird.
I was always creeped out about that stuff back in the preschool/early elementary days. Your story definitely takes the cake of any I ever saw. Yuck!
