PirateSnowmen
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- Jun 2, 2007
Sorry in advance if this is long. I'll try to make this as short and as easy to understand as possible
Background: I'm a senior in college. I've been living with G (stands for girl; just trying to simply things) since last August. We've been friends since the first month of our freshman year of college. Everything this past year has been great; we both get along really well and have the same personality. I've really enjoyed living with her (especially after 2 disastrous years of having bad roommates) and we decided to live with each other again this upcoming school year. Last December, she started dating B (stands for boy). They're truly the perfect couple and are practically engaged already (no ring, but they've been pretty much planning their wedding and the rest of their lives together for a while now). I get along really well with him, but we do have our differences and if he weren't dating G, I doubt I'd be really good friends with him.
G and B met through a mutual friend. B went to school about 2 hours away, but ever since they started dating, they spent every weekend together either at our place or at his. He graduated in May and moved in with us about a month ago. Originally, G and I were supposed to live together next year and he was going to get his own place. Eventually they just decided that all 3 of us would get a place together. I had my reservations, and I let them know about it, but I ultimately agreed because I wanted to live with G again since we get along so great and have such a good time together. I'm locked into living with them now and there's no way out.
G and B are the quintessential "we" couple. They do EVERYTHING together. Ever since he moved here, I haven't gotten to do a single thing alone with G. They're a package deal. And when I say they do everything together, I mean everything. If G gets up to go into the kitchen, B follows. If B gets up to go into the bedroom, G follows. For example, one evening I decided to go get some ice cream. I asked if they wanted anything, and they said yes. I asked if one of them could come with me to help carry the stuff, but B was busy and G "didn't want to leave him alone" so no one came with me. I have many more examples, but I'll spare you the details.
Another thing: they're always touching. I can't sit on the couch because they have to sit together and they have to be touching. And when I say touching, I mean everything from holding hands to rubbing each other's inner thighs. It gets old trying to converse with one of them while they're rubbing their hands all over each other. Also, if we're all sitting in the living room together, every time I'll get up to leave, they have a mini make-out session together on the couch. I guess I appreciate that they try to hold off until I leave, but I can still hear it, and they're almost always still going at it when I get back.
They also whisper to each other all the time. It gets annoying when I'm the only person there and they're whispering and giggling with each other all the time. One of our other friends actually talked to them about it and told them that it was rude and made everyone else feel uncomfortable, but B & G shrugged it off and insisted it wasn't rude at all and that we had no reason to feel uncomfortable.
Lastly, I'm just tired of having to hear them. I think that they think I can't hear them if there's a door/wall between them and me, even though we've had a few discussions about it and they do insist that they try to be quiet. And I'm talking about just hearing normal conversations, not anything intimate. Although I can hear them loud & clear while they're in the shower & bed together.
Am I wrong to feel annoyed with them? Because I had a conversation with her today about all of this (because she always tells me to talk to her if I'm frustrated with them or anything), but she pretty much made me feel like I was being unreasonable. She says they are trying their best to not make me feel uncomfortable, but holy cow I've never been around such a touchy-feely couple before.
I've never asked them to stop what they're doing. If I ever have a problem with something or if I get annoyed, I'll politely leave. If they're too loud, I'll either leave the apartment or get away from them and put in earplugs or headphones. If G ever asks me if there's a problem, I'll politely tell her some of the things I'm feeling, but that's it. I'd never want them to change the way they act/live their lives because of me.
Are my feelings of annoyance with them unreasonable? I've left a lot out of the story, but I've touched on the main points. Again, I've never asked/told them to stop, but I have politely voiced a couple of my problems when asked. G is trying her best to make me feel comfortable, and I appreciate that. But every time she asks me why I feel uncomfortable, she makes me feel like I'm being totally unreasonable. Am I?
I've been really stressed lately (I have 4 exams this coming week) and I've been sick for the past 5 weeks, so I feel like I've just reached my breaking point. Especially since none of my other friends are in town this summer to give me a break from B & G.
Background: I'm a senior in college. I've been living with G (stands for girl; just trying to simply things) since last August. We've been friends since the first month of our freshman year of college. Everything this past year has been great; we both get along really well and have the same personality. I've really enjoyed living with her (especially after 2 disastrous years of having bad roommates) and we decided to live with each other again this upcoming school year. Last December, she started dating B (stands for boy). They're truly the perfect couple and are practically engaged already (no ring, but they've been pretty much planning their wedding and the rest of their lives together for a while now). I get along really well with him, but we do have our differences and if he weren't dating G, I doubt I'd be really good friends with him.
G and B met through a mutual friend. B went to school about 2 hours away, but ever since they started dating, they spent every weekend together either at our place or at his. He graduated in May and moved in with us about a month ago. Originally, G and I were supposed to live together next year and he was going to get his own place. Eventually they just decided that all 3 of us would get a place together. I had my reservations, and I let them know about it, but I ultimately agreed because I wanted to live with G again since we get along so great and have such a good time together. I'm locked into living with them now and there's no way out.
G and B are the quintessential "we" couple. They do EVERYTHING together. Ever since he moved here, I haven't gotten to do a single thing alone with G. They're a package deal. And when I say they do everything together, I mean everything. If G gets up to go into the kitchen, B follows. If B gets up to go into the bedroom, G follows. For example, one evening I decided to go get some ice cream. I asked if they wanted anything, and they said yes. I asked if one of them could come with me to help carry the stuff, but B was busy and G "didn't want to leave him alone" so no one came with me. I have many more examples, but I'll spare you the details.
Another thing: they're always touching. I can't sit on the couch because they have to sit together and they have to be touching. And when I say touching, I mean everything from holding hands to rubbing each other's inner thighs. It gets old trying to converse with one of them while they're rubbing their hands all over each other. Also, if we're all sitting in the living room together, every time I'll get up to leave, they have a mini make-out session together on the couch. I guess I appreciate that they try to hold off until I leave, but I can still hear it, and they're almost always still going at it when I get back.
They also whisper to each other all the time. It gets annoying when I'm the only person there and they're whispering and giggling with each other all the time. One of our other friends actually talked to them about it and told them that it was rude and made everyone else feel uncomfortable, but B & G shrugged it off and insisted it wasn't rude at all and that we had no reason to feel uncomfortable.
Lastly, I'm just tired of having to hear them. I think that they think I can't hear them if there's a door/wall between them and me, even though we've had a few discussions about it and they do insist that they try to be quiet. And I'm talking about just hearing normal conversations, not anything intimate. Although I can hear them loud & clear while they're in the shower & bed together.
Am I wrong to feel annoyed with them? Because I had a conversation with her today about all of this (because she always tells me to talk to her if I'm frustrated with them or anything), but she pretty much made me feel like I was being unreasonable. She says they are trying their best to not make me feel uncomfortable, but holy cow I've never been around such a touchy-feely couple before.
I've never asked them to stop what they're doing. If I ever have a problem with something or if I get annoyed, I'll politely leave. If they're too loud, I'll either leave the apartment or get away from them and put in earplugs or headphones. If G ever asks me if there's a problem, I'll politely tell her some of the things I'm feeling, but that's it. I'd never want them to change the way they act/live their lives because of me.
Are my feelings of annoyance with them unreasonable? I've left a lot out of the story, but I've touched on the main points. Again, I've never asked/told them to stop, but I have politely voiced a couple of my problems when asked. G is trying her best to make me feel comfortable, and I appreciate that. But every time she asks me why I feel uncomfortable, she makes me feel like I'm being totally unreasonable. Am I?
I've been really stressed lately (I have 4 exams this coming week) and I've been sick for the past 5 weeks, so I feel like I've just reached my breaking point. Especially since none of my other friends are in town this summer to give me a break from B & G.