DisneySarah80
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Aug 10, 2010
Yeah.....
My mother called about 15 minutes before they were to come over, and asked if there was anything else I needed her to bring. I told her "Nope, just the xyz that your already bringing. And PLEASE - If your going to bring anything extra, just tell me what it is." My mother is famous for bringing extra stuff (food) over that you had talked about with her, but ruled out having, and telling you that it just MUST be put out because she took the time and money getting it (or she just plays dumb, and says she forgot that it was ruled out). Forget the fact that whatever the item is, isn't wanted or needed, because we are always throwing out more food than could be eaten by a small country.....
So anyway.... On the phone, I told her to tell me exactly what she was bringing... She said nothing extra at all. She gets here, and she has my father hand me everything, and it has 4 "extras" in there. Its dumb, but its frustrating because its her way of "controlling" things. Plus I had JUST asked her on the phone NOT to do exactly what she did.
So, I was a little annoyed, but I wasn't going to say anything, and let it ruin Christmas, or anything stupid like that.
So one of the things that she brought over was low sodium chips (she needs to be on a low sodium diet), and she asked me to put them out for her. Ok, great, no problem at all, I'll be right with you (I had to find a bowl for this item I didn't know about).... I brought something else down first that I had already gotten ready, and she starts (jokingly) berating me for not bringing her chips down right away. Now, I understand she was just joking, but the words she was using were (and always are) very hurtful - If someone from outside of the family heard it, I guarantee they wouldn't have thought it was a joke - Its very nasty, and though she says its a joke, I know there are truth behind her words.
I've been spending a lot of time with my mother since she is getting older (and sick...) and needs help with stuff. I enjoy doing things for/with her, and since I'm not working, and the kids are in school till 3pm, its no problem at all. However.... I can't do anything (and I mean this literally) without her making a comment, and they are never nice. If I'm driving, she will start going on about how I'm about to hit the car in front of me (I'm no where near them) - Or constantly telling me that I'm going the wrong way, or that my way is dumb, and she knows a much better way - But just keep going your (dumb) way.... So when she made her comments on Christmas, I just broke. I don't even remember what I said, but I went back into the kitchen after saying it, to get the rest of the food, and heard her out there crying that "She has just ruined Christmas for me!"
Oy.... It actually blew over quickly, and all was fine after about 10 minutes, but as much as it may have "ruined" her Christmas, it ruined mine (and made in uncomfortable for my DH and DDs) as well.
Well thats my vent - I'm sure I'll be blasted and flamed by the "holier than thou".....
So I called my mother this morning just to say "Hi." and she answered the phone sounding HORRIBLE. She said "I'm still sleeping. Good bye." She said that she sounded so bad because she was asleep.... If you ask me, she sounded SO bad that it sounded fake... Guess shes still po'd about Christmas.....