mom2aredhead
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- Oct 30, 2006
I copied/pasted most of this (mine) from a previous thread where this came up...which can be found here.
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1821341&page=4
My birthday is 10/28 and I grew up in a town where the cutoff was 10/31. I was always the youngest in my class. I always did well in school, had lots of friends, and did not suffer any long lasting damage from starting kindergarten at age 4, or high school at age 13. Honestly, the ONLY time it bothered me was when my friends started getting their driver's licenses and I had to wait a few months, and that was just plain teenage jealousy. I was fine. I went to college (at age 17) graduated and have had a pretty good life.
My son's birthday is in November, and we have a 12/31 cutoff here. That's telling me that the schools expect some of the children coming in to kindergarten to be 4 years old. Kindergarten is full day.
We also have a free Universal Pre-K, for all children age 4 - that's 2-1/2 hours/day. My son did really well in pre-k - knows everything he's "supposed to" and then some - he's starting to read, has no social issues, lots of friends, invited to lots of playdates, works well with the other kids, and has no behavior issues at all. I asked his pre-k teachers several times if I should be concerned about him being on the younger side, and the answer was a resounding no. So I sent him to kindergarten, before his fifth birthday. And he just got his first report card, where he was at or above grade level in everything...reading, writing, socially, behaviorally no issues at all.
Yet according to a lot of advice I read here, I should have held him back simply because of his age, because somewhere down the road he may have maturity issues. Well, somewhere down the road, the kids that started school late and are bored 18 year old high school juniors may have behavior issues too.
I personally don't agree with holding them back, unless you know you are going to be moving during the course of the year to a district that has a different cutoff. Obviously, there are cases where kids are delayed in one area or another, and if they're evaluated by the proper people and it's determined that they'd benefit from a another year of pre-k...well that's an entirely different story.
We all want what's best for our children, and the schools do their best to do that as well...and it's easier for them to do that if the kids in the class fall within a specified age range. If the school is expecting kids that are 4-5, and the curriculum is geared toward them, I would not want my 4 turning 5 year old in a class with a child that just turned 6 who is there because their parents decided to hold them back for "maturity" reasons. I mean, honestly - show me a "mature" 5 year old...there are none! Now this older child will potentially be taking resources (ie teacher's time) away from my child because the older child maybe isn't being challenged by the curriculum, or because the teacher has to discipline the older child who is bored because they really belong in the higher grade.
I know people love to say "studies show" this, and "it's been shown" that - but frankly, (my opinion only) I think the kids that are being kept back may be "thriving" because THEY'RE DOING SCHOOL WORK A YEAR BELOW THE GRADE LEVEL THEY SHOULD BE IN! In other words, don't hold your kid back, then say he/she is gifted because they really should be a grade higher with their peers. I would have done really really well on the SAT's if I took them my freshman year in college, but that wouldn't be fair to everyone else, and it wouldn't be a true measurement. I probably would have done really good on the U8 soccer team at age 9 too.
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=1821341&page=4
My birthday is 10/28 and I grew up in a town where the cutoff was 10/31. I was always the youngest in my class. I always did well in school, had lots of friends, and did not suffer any long lasting damage from starting kindergarten at age 4, or high school at age 13. Honestly, the ONLY time it bothered me was when my friends started getting their driver's licenses and I had to wait a few months, and that was just plain teenage jealousy. I was fine. I went to college (at age 17) graduated and have had a pretty good life.
My son's birthday is in November, and we have a 12/31 cutoff here. That's telling me that the schools expect some of the children coming in to kindergarten to be 4 years old. Kindergarten is full day.
We also have a free Universal Pre-K, for all children age 4 - that's 2-1/2 hours/day. My son did really well in pre-k - knows everything he's "supposed to" and then some - he's starting to read, has no social issues, lots of friends, invited to lots of playdates, works well with the other kids, and has no behavior issues at all. I asked his pre-k teachers several times if I should be concerned about him being on the younger side, and the answer was a resounding no. So I sent him to kindergarten, before his fifth birthday. And he just got his first report card, where he was at or above grade level in everything...reading, writing, socially, behaviorally no issues at all.
Yet according to a lot of advice I read here, I should have held him back simply because of his age, because somewhere down the road he may have maturity issues. Well, somewhere down the road, the kids that started school late and are bored 18 year old high school juniors may have behavior issues too.
I personally don't agree with holding them back, unless you know you are going to be moving during the course of the year to a district that has a different cutoff. Obviously, there are cases where kids are delayed in one area or another, and if they're evaluated by the proper people and it's determined that they'd benefit from a another year of pre-k...well that's an entirely different story.
We all want what's best for our children, and the schools do their best to do that as well...and it's easier for them to do that if the kids in the class fall within a specified age range. If the school is expecting kids that are 4-5, and the curriculum is geared toward them, I would not want my 4 turning 5 year old in a class with a child that just turned 6 who is there because their parents decided to hold them back for "maturity" reasons. I mean, honestly - show me a "mature" 5 year old...there are none! Now this older child will potentially be taking resources (ie teacher's time) away from my child because the older child maybe isn't being challenged by the curriculum, or because the teacher has to discipline the older child who is bored because they really belong in the higher grade.
I know people love to say "studies show" this, and "it's been shown" that - but frankly, (my opinion only) I think the kids that are being kept back may be "thriving" because THEY'RE DOING SCHOOL WORK A YEAR BELOW THE GRADE LEVEL THEY SHOULD BE IN! In other words, don't hold your kid back, then say he/she is gifted because they really should be a grade higher with their peers. I would have done really really well on the SAT's if I took them my freshman year in college, but that wouldn't be fair to everyone else, and it wouldn't be a true measurement. I probably would have done really good on the U8 soccer team at age 9 too.