Am I too sensitive?

Discussion in 'Community Board' started by Myothername, Nov 20, 2012.

  1. focusondisney

    focusondisney DIS Veteran

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    Sorry. I'm going against the majority. I think there is some problem between the coworkers & you. They leave you out of their plans & they don't want to participate in yours. Snippy comments about being left out won't help. I wouldn't push the issue, just be friendy & wait til things blow over.
     
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  3. SC Minnie

    SC Minnie <font color=purple>Are we there yet???<br><font co

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    We had 7 people that worked in a room. When someone would order out or would want to go out they would ask 'anybody want to go get XXX today' or 'I'm going to XXX anybody want anything'. We had 1 instigator that loved to great drama. For some reason she all of the sudden got mad at me and another woman in here. The instigator would IM 2 others in the group and only those 3 would go out. They would leave the room a few minutes apart and meet up in the parking lot so no one would see them. It was so childish and these 3 really weren't close friends. The one was trying to turn the other 2 against us and since she was the stronger personality they were going along with it. :rolleyes2 It felt like Jr High in there.

    I finally had to let it go. I didn't care if the instigator or really even the other 2 liked me. I am there to do a job not to make life long friends (if that happens its a bonus). But it did change the whole atmosphere in the room and dept. Luckily the instigator got another job (and only have a 1 day notice). We were jumping for joy when she left.
     
  4. Tigger&Belle

    Tigger&Belle <font color=blue>I'm the good girl on the DIS<br><

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    I agree....and I would also be hurt. Doesn't mean there's not more going on than meets the eye, but it's hard to control what hurts us. I wouldn't say anything more to them about it, though. If they do sometime include you, that's fine. But don't expect it since they've shown they don't have any intention of including you.

    It sounds very cliquish to me.

    Passive aggressive and I would not do this. Not that I wouldn't *think* about doing it, however. :)
     
  5. Kellydelly

    Kellydelly DIS Veteran

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    I agree that it is rude to order out and not ask everyone in the office if they are interested. There are half a dozen of you not 20 :confused3. I would feel a bit hurt too.

    Do you volunteer to go pick up the food when they do include you?
     
  6. disykat

    disykat DIS Veteran

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    I don't see anything wrong with the other half of the office deciding to order on their own. My guess is that the half that started ordering first would just think "they finally get it, we want to do separate orders!"

    To me, the first group was the passive aggressive one. They should have just said it's more conveninent for them to order with just the three of them.
     

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