RadioFanatic
Mouseketeer<br><font color=6d6b70>SO not a jewelry
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- Jun 28, 2005
I know this is a hot topic here, so I will get good responses from you guys. Say whatever you want, I can take it and I'm really in a quandry.
So question. How would you feel if your childs school wanted him to ride in a car of a parent of another student we dont know to go to a fieldtrip? My just turned 3 year old DS has his first fieldtrip Thursday. Dh and I cant take off work because of all the time we missed from school being closed bc of weather. When I first talked to the administrator about it, DS was either going to be in her car or at least in a car a teacher is in (teacher cant drive because of insurance reasons). Last night though, DSs teacher said she was driving with another teacher so he cant be in that car, the administrator is not going, so they want him in a car of another parent (they dont have buses). I dont like it at all because this person would be a stranger to him and to us and (a) it scares me because I dont know them to trust them with the most important thing in the world to me; and (b) we are trying to teach him not to talk to strangers and here we are putting him in a situation where the only adult would be a stranger. As DS just started this school in january, we really know NONE of the parents.
Am I being overcautious? A helicopter parent? My DH was molested as a preteen by an authority figure so we don't know if this is coloring our judgment. And no, I'm not saying that will happen, it just doesn't make us trust very easily when it comes to our child. Also, if the worse happens, I (probably crazily) worry that the parent (understandably) would be more concerned with their child than mine.
It's already adding to my guilty conscious of being a working mom, and I don't want to be the one to not allow my kid to do things bc my parents were always not allowing me to do things bc it inconvenienced them. I promised I would never do that to my child.
So what say you DIS court? Helicoptering or cause for concern?
So question. How would you feel if your childs school wanted him to ride in a car of a parent of another student we dont know to go to a fieldtrip? My just turned 3 year old DS has his first fieldtrip Thursday. Dh and I cant take off work because of all the time we missed from school being closed bc of weather. When I first talked to the administrator about it, DS was either going to be in her car or at least in a car a teacher is in (teacher cant drive because of insurance reasons). Last night though, DSs teacher said she was driving with another teacher so he cant be in that car, the administrator is not going, so they want him in a car of another parent (they dont have buses). I dont like it at all because this person would be a stranger to him and to us and (a) it scares me because I dont know them to trust them with the most important thing in the world to me; and (b) we are trying to teach him not to talk to strangers and here we are putting him in a situation where the only adult would be a stranger. As DS just started this school in january, we really know NONE of the parents.
Am I being overcautious? A helicopter parent? My DH was molested as a preteen by an authority figure so we don't know if this is coloring our judgment. And no, I'm not saying that will happen, it just doesn't make us trust very easily when it comes to our child. Also, if the worse happens, I (probably crazily) worry that the parent (understandably) would be more concerned with their child than mine.
It's already adding to my guilty conscious of being a working mom, and I don't want to be the one to not allow my kid to do things bc my parents were always not allowing me to do things bc it inconvenienced them. I promised I would never do that to my child.
So what say you DIS court? Helicoptering or cause for concern?