B'rer Karen
<font color=purple>DIS Veteran<br><font color=deep
- Joined
- Jan 27, 2001
Originally posted by Hedgie10502
A lot of people had made the suggestion that you should have your own bank account, etc. Just one thing to think of though, you haven't done any of the finances up to this point why do you want to start? You obviously trust your husband enough to do all the finances that you don't even know the amount of the bills each month. The only reason to even think about setting up your own bank account and credit card is if you feel you are being controlled. Do you honestly feel that way?
I am probably going to be slammed for my posting but how can you post a question and have a discussion when everyone agrees? We are not robots we are not programmed to all agree, they will be some who will be on the fence and there will be others you will disagree.
No slam here. But I did want to comment on the finances issue. Regardless of whether her husband (or anyone's husband for that matter) is cheating, it is a smart idea to know how to handle the finances and have some things in her name. People fall ill, people die, people abuse, people cheat. I think that both spouses should at least know all the current finances and how to handle everything "just in case." My father has done the finances in our house for my parents entire marriage. My mom is completely fine with that, but I've always worried about "what happens when Dad's gone?" Recently he had surgery, and instead of just paying everything ahead of time, he taught my mom about their finances and let her handle things while he was in the hospital. This was a really good thing. She's not going to take on the day to day responsibilities, but she can if she needs to.
Regardless of if Lisa's feeling controlled, she definitely does not have any control of her finances, and that is a difficult position to be in if you decide you want or need to leave.