mousefanmichelle
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jun 29, 2006
I need some ideas on how to help my out of control 16yr old son. I am not sure counseling will do anything since he is becoming a master minipulator.
Here are some details of whats been going on -
He lies. Lies all the time even when we catch him he still lies. I have told him that there is no point in it since we already know the truth and yet...he lies. He has been caught with beer in his backpack. He skips college (enrolled in our middle college program). He was caught stealing a manhole cover and last week we went to court over it. His hand was slapped and that was it besides the fines we had to pay. He can't pay them since he doesn't have a job. We took the truck away from him that he bought with his money becuz he was caught racing it. We made him put it up for sale.
He is home every day from school at noon. We work an hour away and can't babysit him to keep him home while we are away. He leaves. He is not supposed to. We took all the keys out of our 3 dirtbikes so he can't ride them and today he went to take his sisters little 50cc dirtbike and go over a friends. My oldest son (18) took the key away and my 16yr old kicked and dented his older brothers car. My oldest son wanted me to call the cops on his little brother bcuz he is sick of him. I didn't because it's going to cost me, not my 16yr old, financially speaking. I can't afford that. I just paid to get his truck out of impound, court fee and lawyer fee.
I think my dh is ready to kick him out or choke him out. Not sure which. I don't know what to do anymore.
Advice from those that have BTDT?
Here are some details of whats been going on -
He lies. Lies all the time even when we catch him he still lies. I have told him that there is no point in it since we already know the truth and yet...he lies. He has been caught with beer in his backpack. He skips college (enrolled in our middle college program). He was caught stealing a manhole cover and last week we went to court over it. His hand was slapped and that was it besides the fines we had to pay. He can't pay them since he doesn't have a job. We took the truck away from him that he bought with his money becuz he was caught racing it. We made him put it up for sale.
He is home every day from school at noon. We work an hour away and can't babysit him to keep him home while we are away. He leaves. He is not supposed to. We took all the keys out of our 3 dirtbikes so he can't ride them and today he went to take his sisters little 50cc dirtbike and go over a friends. My oldest son (18) took the key away and my 16yr old kicked and dented his older brothers car. My oldest son wanted me to call the cops on his little brother bcuz he is sick of him. I didn't because it's going to cost me, not my 16yr old, financially speaking. I can't afford that. I just paid to get his truck out of impound, court fee and lawyer fee.
I think my dh is ready to kick him out or choke him out. Not sure which. I don't know what to do anymore.
Advice from those that have BTDT?