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ChristyJ said:I'm the OP. I have suggested other dresses-dresses I thought were beautiful AND reasonable. But rather than even responding, the bride-to-be ignored them. Then she flipped out on me for asking how much a newly chosen dress would cost, I asked her if she had considered the ones I Emailed to her. She flatly said no. She is the youngest of 5 and is very used to getting exactly what she wants when she wants it. She is also unaware of money in general and has no problem spending other peoples' money and is quite rude about it. There was never a "I'm sorry, I know this is expensive, but I absolutely love this dress." Rather, it was "I picked out the dress I want."
So, after all of this (and my step-father's health crisis), I had finally given up and called in my daughter's measurements to the bridal shop. The owner tried pressuring me to pay 3/4's of the dress, saying the bride was SURE this was the dress she wanted, etc. I told her to call me when they were there and I would give her my credit card info at that time (because you know once you put any money down in most bridal shops, that's it-you must buy there-no refunds!). Turns out...the bride has changed her mind again.
You know what--I wouldn't give them a credit card. I would send the bride the money and have her pay for it. Not that they would try to do something unscrupulous--but I wouldn't put it past her to attempt to mess with the store account.
Also-I wasn't suggesting you be stuck with the plan. I would have simply told her that I couldn't afford it and put the ball in her court to make a suggestion.
Giving in to something you don't agree with just adds to her persnickety attitude.
While it wasn't right for her to ignore you and then be rude--her reaction is exactly why I have opted to not say anything to the brides for the weddings that we have been or will be in. I either can afford the cost or not. I either agree with the principle of the idea or I don't. I just don't think it is right to offer someone suggestions about their wedding unless you were asked. Sorry.
I'm sorry about your step-dad. Hope he will be okay.