But that's where some opinions differ. Some people feel, me included, that he IS the man she married. He has been injured (albeit serverely) but he is the man she married. This is the worse in for better or worse and the sickness in sickness and health. I certainly wouldn't be looking for a replacement for the children's daddy. My DH and myself have discussed that should something happen to us our children would only ever have one mommy or one daddy. If one of us should die, there may be a step parent in the future but they will never take the place of us. We agreed (my DH and myself) that our vow said til death do us part. We fully intend to keep those vows. To us, death means actually going to heaven and ceasing to live on this earth. It does not mean living in a nursing home. Would I ever judge someone for making a decision different from my own? No. The OP asked for opinions and I gave mine, for what it is worth. I really hope everyone involved is getting some counseling. I can't imagine how difficult this is for everyone involved.
As another OP asked....did she ever have "the" conversation with her husband?
I´m curious to know. Does this mean you would never, ever, under any circumstances divorce your husband?