How do you know that the father doesn't have a good job? I get that he might not have a high-paying job, but people raise families on modest incomes all the time. To suggest that people not raise a family if the father isn't a high wage earner is not a road we should travel down, in my opinion.
Occam's razor: The simplest solution is usually correct.
Yeah, the father's job might not be as dismal as it appears, the mother could be weeks away from finishing her MD, the pair could have inherited great wealth, they might be married but not sharing a name . . . but those things probably aren't true. Likely the obvious, the simplest explaination is true.
I am gathering that smart people just don't have sex because they can come up with "better" things to do? I am wondering what those better things are that us middle class folks are supposed to be taking part in.
While I don't agree with the way the original sentiment was expressed, we all know what was meant: Plenty of studies have shown that people with a low socio-economic status are less likely to use birth control, whereas middle and upper class people who -- for lack of a better phrase -- "have more to live for" (or maybe those who have more to lose) are more likely to be careful and avoid conceiving an unplanned baby.
The problem is, we're not willing to pay the consequences of removing the money. No one wants to see roaming gangs of parentless, unwanted children, such as they have in countries without social safety nets. No one wants our citizens living in the garbage dumps, picking through the trash to survive. No one wants to see the skyrocketing levels of disease and crime that would result from the elimination of welfare.
Add this: Many of those children could be placed with adoptive families . . . IF we were willing to take the children out of the home before the birth families have had 3-4 years to influence them badly. But instead every birth parent, no matter how obviously unprepared or unable to provide care, gets quite a few chances before losing custody.
This is what comes to my mind everytime someone trots out the "Let's get rid of welfare" line. Do you really think that is going to stop people from having sex (and kids)? No. What it will do is drive up the numbers of homeless people, criminals, babies tossed into dumpsters, etc.
No, but I think that if welfare wasn't available as a safety net, more families would refuse to let birth fathers off the hook for providing for their children. Also, I think some girls would see their friends having trouble without welfare money and would say, "Maybe I will refuse to have sex without a condom."
I believe that here in WA you have a maximum of 5 years (in your entire lifetime) to receive welfare money.
That's one of those things that sounds good in theory . . . but in reality, if your "welfare time" is all used up, you can still get food stamps, free school lunches, Medicare (or is it Medicade? I always confuse the two), free health care, low-income housing. Welfare is just ONE of many financial benefits.
. . . Most of the other girls we know still live with their parents. These girls have nice cars, cool clothes etc. and we paid for the birth of the babies and continue to pay.
Of course, these girls are stuck living with their parents -- they can't move out and maintain anything like this standard of living, so they're losing age-appropriate indepenence. I don't think most of these girls are doing as well as it appears they are; it's just irritating to those who are working hard and paying their own way to see it.