Yes, this was my point exactly. Yes, we all have sexual feelings and that is all part of being human and is totally normal and good. But we are human, not wild animals and we have more developed brains that allow us to make reasonable decisions. Having sex as a teenager is not acceptable and I think far too many people go along with "they do it anyway." Not all teens have sex. I didn't (I was married first and not saying that is what should be done at all, but just giving some background). My parents told me all about birth control and showed me condoms but also told me that teen sex was not acceptable. I had many sexual feelings, but also knew the consequences of acting on them. There are many ways you can teach kids to handle those feelings without having sex. And the boys need to be taught that you can not pressure anyone to do anything.
I still stand by finding out what is motivating these kids to act on feelings and then giving them tools to handle them. BC should absolutely be taught as well. Hand out condoms, sure. But try to help kids postpone so no one has to deal with pregnancy, disease, or other emotional fall out. As adults,we have to stop throwing up our hands and saying "its just what they do." Many girls I know had issues at home or boyfriends who were controlling or just had no self-esteem and wanted someone to love them. Help these girls with these problems first. Let them know there are other choices. Of course sex feels good, but do you really need to find that out at 14 or 15?
Jessica
I don't believe anyone one of us who feel that students should be taught and given BC are saying that we shouldn't also help them learn to "say no". I'm not throwing up my hands but I don't believe that a just say no problem will fix anything unless it includes teaching about how to use BC and offering it to all the students. Teens have and will always have sex, no amount of self esteem classes, or telling them its not accepatble will change that.