8 Graduations and 2 Confirmations...what to do?

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  1. nilseks

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    I need some input. DH is one of 5 kids; there are 19 neices and nephews on his side. Between all of those kids, there are 8 graduations (some from grade school, 2 from high school, 2 from college) and 2 Confirmations this year. Usually we have 2 or 3 of these events going on each year, but not TEN! And they are all within 1 month of one another. Normally I give $50 for graduations (which honestly, I don't feel like that is enough for a college graduation gift) but I can't afford to pony up $500 for all of these events.

    I wish I could come up with some meaningful gift ideas that would be cherished AND help me save money. Or at least come up with some kind of alternative to shelling out all this cash.

    Any thoughts/tips would be greatly appreciated.
     
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  3. andrews_dad

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    Tip: Take out a 2nd mortgage! :rotfl:
     
  4. clori

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    Do you really need to give cash for a grade school graduation? Do you live close enough that you could do a cheaper activity with the younger kids rather than give money? For confirmation is there a special religious gift you could give that would cost less?
     
  5. sksjasams

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    I wouldn't think a gift for grade school graduation would be necessary - just a nice card, and maybe a small i-tunes gift card if you really wanted to give a gift.

    I think the trouble you are going to run into is changing the gifts you give mid-stream in a family. If you have always given each child a standard monetary amount, it will be hard not to do the same for other kids, especially one's in the same family.

    I would start setting aside $100/month now so that you won't have to come up with all of it at once.
     
  6. mrsklamc

    mrsklamc <font color=blue>I apologize in advance, but what

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    This. both things.
     
  7. monorailsilver

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    Well....

    For the grade school ones, I wouldn't expect much if anything as a parent for my kids. Can you give them $25 saving's bonds? Or heck an itunes gc or some other gc. I would not spend much more then $15-$20 even if they are family. And that might be even more then I would want to spend.

    The HS ones I would give the $50 or a $50 saving's bond.

    And the college ones, maybe a bit more or a pen or something that has to do with their major which may be cheaper then just giving $$$.

    Confirmations, hmm...savings bond...notice my trend?
     
  8. ceecee

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    No grade school gift...also I certainly didn't get any gifts for graduation from college either. As for confirmations we are protestant and don't do that.
     
  9. scooterpig

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    Grade schoolers get cash graduation gifts? Sheeesh, I'm living in the wrong neighborhood! :rotfl2:
     
  10. englishteacha

    englishteacha <font color=magenta>I've just gotten crazier over

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    I am the youngest of 8 sibilngs. I have over 20 nieces and nephews. There's no way I can give expensive gifts! Next summer we have 3 high school graduations, my own Graduate School graduation, and 2 weddings. Thank goodness we don't do anything for grade school graduations, 8th grade graduations, etc.

    For confirmation (I am also protestant, but confirmation is kind of a big deal in our family, protestant or not), I received a lovely silver necklace. I know it wasn't particularly expensive but it meant a lot to me and I wore it all through high school (I was confirmed at the end of 8th grade). If it's a girl being confirmed, I'd get her pretty earrings or a necklace. For a guy, maybe a new wallet?

    I say give frugal gifts for confirmation, a card for the little ones with grade school graduations (maybe a McD's gift card for their own Happy Meal?), and $25-50 for the high school/college grads.
     
  11. Piecey

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    I think I'd ask if the grade school kids had college savings plans... if they did, I'd ask for the info to make a deposit and let the parents know I'd do it before the end of the year (thus allowing more time for me to come up with the funds to do so). I'd give the kid a card and go on with my life.
     
  12. nilseks

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    Thanks for all the input!

    I should clarify that when I say 'grade school', I mean 8th grade. I do not spend as much on those events but there has been a precedent set in our family and it's hard not to follow it. The frustrating thing is, my kids are the youngest and there's a pattern that has already been set...everything is a big hullaballoo for the older kids, but by the time my kids get around to doing something (for example, my son's first communion last year) it's kind of a 'been there, done that too many times' attitude. But yet, like a said, a precedent is set, and I feel the pressure not to be the only family showing up at a party empty-handed.

    I was looking on etsy and found a few nice items for the girls. Boys are harder, maybe I will just do itunes cards for some of the younger ones.
     
  13. wdwfan16

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    First skips the stupid grade school ones. That brings it down to $300.

    I would still skip 8th grade. But if you did for all the others than you should do for them too and in the same denomination.
     
  14. tommya60

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    Well, if you have already given gifts for grade school graduation, you are stuck. Changing mid-stream is hard on everyone. I'd do small i-tunes for gradeschool (if you HAVE to do somthing), either i-Tunes or Barnes and Noble for high school graduation (they sell textbooks for colleges) and a Target card for the college grads. If you start buying them now at least you can spread it out over several months.
     
  15. FoundMyPrince

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    I'd skip buying anything other than a card for the 8th grade graduations.

    Perhaps for the high school or college graduations, you and the other siblings could go together and buy a nice larger gift for the neice/nephew?

    And, we're protestant and I am no help on the confirmation part...kind of clueless on that one.
     
  16. amylevan

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    I have often put together baskets of things a college student will need for dorm life for high school graduates (well actually I use a crate instead of a basket since crates are indespensible for college students). Think mugs, a melamine plate/bowl/glass set, bulletin or white board for door, quarter dispenser, picture frames...The basket can be put together rather cheaply if you shop sales and hit target/walmart.

    For college graduation, money is really the best bet.

    I wouldn't do grade school, but if needed, maybe a savings bond? Gift cards for Itunes or maybe movie tickets?

    For confirmation, female - maybe jewelry? You could probably find a nice looking necklace or earrings for reasonable. Male - I'm back to thinking Itunes or movie tickets.
     
  17. ziggystardust

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    i feel your pain. I have 6 weddings from may - aug. 2 i'm in (1 my sister and 1 my best friend) and 3 of those, my boyfriend is in. So needless to say, i will be attending all of the showers, if not throwing them. plus i just moved. the expense is killing me.
     
  18. scooterpig

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    I understand the precidence thing..and I think you're doing the right thing. I can often find nice, meaningful gifts in a very affordable price range if I search the web long enough. Try also Amazon, and keep your eye on the Ebay daily deals.
     
  19. PaulaSue

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    OP, why give to the kids not really graduating? I would only give to one graduating from HS and College. Too many people expect presents for not big life events...IMO
     
  20. Pastamom

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    Do you or can you get some photos of the grads (esp the younger ones)? You could get them a nice photo album leaving some pages blank for the next chapter in their life. My DS's are always getting random photos from school/friends etc. They (and so do I) love having a place to put all of them. You could write a nice note or find a poem, or include the book Oh the Place You'll Go by Dr. Suess - It's a classic for grads.
     
  21. Rosiekins

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    My 2 very favorite gifts when I graduated were a woven blanket (the kind towns sell to make money) that had this historic town park near where I grew up on it and my towns name, I clung to this thing when I moved because I was homesick lol and a Beautiful leather journal. I still have and cherish both. I know you can get the journals and Barnes and Noble from about $15 to $45 depending on the one you pick.

    We give all the graduates we know the same thing A leather complete works of William Shakespeare with a bookplate in it congratulating them and telling them we hope this a start to a great library. We have gotten so many thanks and positive feed back over this gift. Really nice ones are $20 at Barnes and Noble. How about pretty (or handsome)cross necklaces, bracelets or earrings for the conformations and invitations to lunch with you (if they are close) for the grade schoolers? I guess what I am saying is find something special and unique, it doesn't have to cost a ton but it will be remembered.
     

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