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Sorry, I posted this last night and then never checked it again until just now. Oops.
She is in daycare, but it's an in-home daycare (my sister) and there are 6 other kids there. I don't notice the baby talk much at home (maybe I'm used to it and ignore it?) but my sister has mentioned it. Even though it's not an actual preschool, my sister has her education degree for early elementary (my mind is blanking on the actual term..basically she is certified to go be a teacher at a preschool, she just chooses to do an in-home daycare).
That's very helpful! I never really thought about how much she would mature during Kindergarten and first grade.
Yay, it's not just me! Sometimes I feel so alone and don't know what I am doing wrong. Good to know it's more common than I thought!
I'm not sure if you are referring to spanking or something instead of just time outs, but we do spank, also. We usually put DD in time out and if she repeatedly gets out or doesn't stay there we will spank her once. If that doesn't work we do it again. The second time she knows we mean business and will stay in time out. I just hate getting to the point where we have to spank her a second time (just one or two swats, not repeatedly hitting her).
Several posts mentioned not giving in. We don't. That's why I don't understand why she keeps doing this. I will tell her I can't understand her whining/screaming/crying and will ask her if she thinks that will make me change my answer (she will say no). She's just so stubborn and I think impulse control (someone else mentioned) is an issue. She's always been very high-strung/emotional. Even as a baby she would go from sleeping to awake and screaming/crying. She was colicky and nothing could calm her down. (DH and I sometimes joke that she is still colicky )
Thanks for all the replies!
Oh, and everyone who mentioned if she was a boy they would say hold "him" back - well my son just turned one last week....in a few years I will be going through this again with him!
Has she had any preschool experience or other experience with other adults (day care, Sunday School, etc.)? Does she throw fits and baby talk for others or only at home/for you?
She is in daycare, but it's an in-home daycare (my sister) and there are 6 other kids there. I don't notice the baby talk much at home (maybe I'm used to it and ignore it?) but my sister has mentioned it. Even though it's not an actual preschool, my sister has her education degree for early elementary (my mind is blanking on the actual term..basically she is certified to go be a teacher at a preschool, she just chooses to do an in-home daycare).
Our youngest dd's kindergarten teacher told us in October of the school year she needed to repeat kindergarten then said it again in February of the same school year based on maturity because academically she was doing great. She was one of the youngest in her class. We chose to send her on. Her 1st grade teacher & 2nd grade teacher both said we made the right choice to send her on. My God Daughter went through the same thing. Her teacher had taught kindergarten & 1st grade and said in her experience girls mature quickly between kindergarten & 1st.
Ironically, our 8yo is almost as mature as our 10yo at this point.
Sorry not of more help but every kid is different.
That's very helpful! I never really thought about how much she would mature during Kindergarten and first grade.
The behavior that you've described is exactly what I see in my DD now, and I wouldn't hesitate to send her to school.
Yay, it's not just me! Sometimes I feel so alone and don't know what I am doing wrong. Good to know it's more common than I thought!
She asked if fit throwing was normal for 4 year olds and she said that she used time out repeatedly. I did give advise about whether or not to send her to kindy. I also let her know that the reason she has a child who throws fits is because she has obviously listened to all the expert "advise" about time outs and ignoring bad behavior and not using discipline and now she is seeing the results that so many countless other parents are seeing, out of control children. Sadly 4 year old having fits is becoming "normal"
I'm not sure if you are referring to spanking or something instead of just time outs, but we do spank, also. We usually put DD in time out and if she repeatedly gets out or doesn't stay there we will spank her once. If that doesn't work we do it again. The second time she knows we mean business and will stay in time out. I just hate getting to the point where we have to spank her a second time (just one or two swats, not repeatedly hitting her).
Several posts mentioned not giving in. We don't. That's why I don't understand why she keeps doing this. I will tell her I can't understand her whining/screaming/crying and will ask her if she thinks that will make me change my answer (she will say no). She's just so stubborn and I think impulse control (someone else mentioned) is an issue. She's always been very high-strung/emotional. Even as a baby she would go from sleeping to awake and screaming/crying. She was colicky and nothing could calm her down. (DH and I sometimes joke that she is still colicky )
Thanks for all the replies!
Oh, and everyone who mentioned if she was a boy they would say hold "him" back - well my son just turned one last week....in a few years I will be going through this again with him!