mamacatnv
That be a Mum Y'all - a Texas Mum
- Joined
- Nov 7, 2005
It is so complicated and no one solution would work for everyone.
My Mother was a schizophrenic and then developed early onset dementia.
It was not until I was able to obtain legal guardianship of her that she became medicated.
When people ask me what I would do if I won the lottery and didn't "have" to work, my response is I would become an advocate for mental health care reform.
Prior to my guardianship was 10 years of battling the system and Mother. Mother was violent, abusive, prone to fits of rage and an extreme hoarder. She became homeless at 68 years of age, not because she couldn't pay the rent but because she scared her neighbors, she hoarded and she was just plain crazy. Her senior apartment complex for folks with disabilities and fixed incomes (subsidized by the Gov't) was able to evict her knowing she had no backup plan, nowhere to go etc. They evicted her, then her "senior advocate" from another state agency Adult Protective Services, drove her two hours and dropped her at a woman's homeless shelter (this was all unbeknownst to me because legally they couldn't inform me since I had no rights) this was a shelter that she could not stay in during the day, she had to leave and then come back. She was 68 years old, no longer knew how to use a payphone, was in a strange city, had nowhere to go and was told to leave and come back in 12 hours. She had been forcibly removed from her apartment and all her belongings. She had the clothes on her back, her purse and coat. This was in Oregon at the end of November, it was cold.
Oh Man, just typing this makes me so angry and its been about 10 years since this happened. I was able to track her down only to find that the woman's shelter kicked her out via the Sheriff because someone tried to take her shoes and she reacted violently. The Sheriff dropped her at an emergency room and that is where the final pieces went together and I was able to seek guardianship.
Now, how in any way is this logical to anyone? I had tried every resource, consulted with an attorney etc. I am of sound mind with an education, resources and a very supportive spouse. I cannot imagine a mentally ill person trying to navigate this alone.
Often, mentally ill folks have exhausted and alienated their families. We were lucky, I am very strong willed and didn't have an emotional attachment to mother so dealing with her was not traumatic to Me. I also had my Brother and my Auntie who, when I couldn't take another second of her crap, would step in. We used this revolving family method for many years.
Mother refused medication - you see, mentally ill people don't see anything wrong with themselves, its all us who are abnormal.
Mother refused medical intervention, she refused everything we could come up with to help her and the law was on her side - this is where I think we could start. When someone is so obviously suffering, there has got to be a way for a family/friends/Dr. to get a person help and yes, to force care/meds if needed.
We as a country spend sooooo much money on our criminals and sooooo little on mental health, its just sickening. Let the prisoners live in squalor with bologna 3x's a day and get the folks who need mental health treatment the help they need.
Give Families/Friends the ability to intervene, allow families to truly help, not just run around behind the person cleaning up the mess.
This is exhausting and its no wonder such a large % of our homeless population is mentally ill.
My Mother was a schizophrenic and then developed early onset dementia.
It was not until I was able to obtain legal guardianship of her that she became medicated.
When people ask me what I would do if I won the lottery and didn't "have" to work, my response is I would become an advocate for mental health care reform.
Prior to my guardianship was 10 years of battling the system and Mother. Mother was violent, abusive, prone to fits of rage and an extreme hoarder. She became homeless at 68 years of age, not because she couldn't pay the rent but because she scared her neighbors, she hoarded and she was just plain crazy. Her senior apartment complex for folks with disabilities and fixed incomes (subsidized by the Gov't) was able to evict her knowing she had no backup plan, nowhere to go etc. They evicted her, then her "senior advocate" from another state agency Adult Protective Services, drove her two hours and dropped her at a woman's homeless shelter (this was all unbeknownst to me because legally they couldn't inform me since I had no rights) this was a shelter that she could not stay in during the day, she had to leave and then come back. She was 68 years old, no longer knew how to use a payphone, was in a strange city, had nowhere to go and was told to leave and come back in 12 hours. She had been forcibly removed from her apartment and all her belongings. She had the clothes on her back, her purse and coat. This was in Oregon at the end of November, it was cold.
Oh Man, just typing this makes me so angry and its been about 10 years since this happened. I was able to track her down only to find that the woman's shelter kicked her out via the Sheriff because someone tried to take her shoes and she reacted violently. The Sheriff dropped her at an emergency room and that is where the final pieces went together and I was able to seek guardianship.
Now, how in any way is this logical to anyone? I had tried every resource, consulted with an attorney etc. I am of sound mind with an education, resources and a very supportive spouse. I cannot imagine a mentally ill person trying to navigate this alone.
Often, mentally ill folks have exhausted and alienated their families. We were lucky, I am very strong willed and didn't have an emotional attachment to mother so dealing with her was not traumatic to Me. I also had my Brother and my Auntie who, when I couldn't take another second of her crap, would step in. We used this revolving family method for many years.
Mother refused medication - you see, mentally ill people don't see anything wrong with themselves, its all us who are abnormal.
Mother refused medical intervention, she refused everything we could come up with to help her and the law was on her side - this is where I think we could start. When someone is so obviously suffering, there has got to be a way for a family/friends/Dr. to get a person help and yes, to force care/meds if needed.
We as a country spend sooooo much money on our criminals and sooooo little on mental health, its just sickening. Let the prisoners live in squalor with bologna 3x's a day and get the folks who need mental health treatment the help they need.
Give Families/Friends the ability to intervene, allow families to truly help, not just run around behind the person cleaning up the mess.
This is exhausting and its no wonder such a large % of our homeless population is mentally ill.