We have taken DD, 9, to F&W for the past 3 years. We love it and DD loves it. We were there a couple of weeks ago on a Saturday during the lunch hour- we hopped to EPCOT from DHS to see Duffy on his last day and have lunch. That Saturday was the most crowded I have ever seen it during F&W(and we have been on Saturdays before). We had to wait about an hour and 15 minutes in line for Duffy and DD was hungry. The sun was beating down and she was whining in the long F&W line because she was hungry. A lady looked as us and said loudly to her party obviously for us to hear- " This is just no place for children." I almost busted out laughing because once DD got her food she was perfectly happy-- she was just really hungry and hot in the line in the sun for that 5 minutes. It was insanely crowded that day and we did hop out after lunch- but we spent 2 full other days there morning to night and one other half day there and had a great time.
EPCOT has been DD's favorite park other than MK since she was 2. It is totally kid friendly as far as she is concerned. She also loves F&W. She is a very picky eater, but at F&W, she is willing to get and taste all sorts of things she normally would not touch because she knows she is not committed to it as her meal and that if she doesn't like it, then we are fine with DH either eating it, or throwing it away and getting her something else. On our trip 2 weeks ago, she decided she really liked yucca, something I know she would not have tried before. That is also the first place she ever ate Salmon 2 years ago and she loved it immediately. Before she would not even taste fish.
We would be devastated if the tried to make EPCOT 21 and over in WS in the evenings during F&W. As far as the drunks, we have not had any issues on weeknights. We have seen a few tipsy people or people who have had too much to drink- but you can run into that in a restaurant at home or at any event where alcohol is sold. It is a teaching moment. I will agree that I don't like having DD there on Saturday nights. It is way too packed- and with the huge crowds come a lot more drunks. This year I was there Saturday night Oct 10 for a trip to Mousegears while DD and DH were at the YC pool, and it was crazy walking back to the resort. There was a drunk girl sitting to rest right in the middle of the WS walking path and creating a total log jam because it was so crowded you could barely walk anyway and everyone was trying to get around her. She is lucky if she didn't get stepped on. We had a teaching minute that DD is still talking about either last year or the year before on a Saturday night involving 3 drunk early 20s guys climbing into the birdbath by the UK bathrooms and looking like idiots. I'm surprised the birdbath didn't break and I'm surprised that security wasn't right there. Honestly, I'm pretty sure that DD is going to remember that moment and how stupid they looked every time she thinks about drinking too much in college, so I'm not so sure it was a bad thing for her to see!