Am I crazy for saying no to some pixie dust? Has anyone else did anything this crazy?

[Goofy_Disney_Dad]

I'd have jumped all over that.

 

[bumbershoot]

I don't like "once in a lifetime" things, so I likely would have turned it down, too.

 

[Flight]

I have turned down hotel room upgrades and upgrades when flying from coach to first class when traveling alone. Just me, so don't really need the extra space. Give it to someone else that could appreciate it or have the need. However, if traveling with the family, that would be a different consideration.

 

[larryz]

Be sure to tell the parking attendants that you absolutely insist on parking at the far end of the row, and don't pay any less than $2.00 per cup of free ice water, too.

 

[BradChristian]

Sometimes you need to say thank you and accept the gift. That room may sit empty now or they may give it to a family but they may also offer it to another couple who will also just end up "wasting" the space. I don't see how it is wasting the space if it was just going to sit empty anyways. Chances are they offered it because they were predicting it was going to sit empty and they needed your room because it was in demand.

I think its admirable to decline the upgrade... but I have a hunch that the above quote was right.

However - don't feel bad - They probably will make somebody's day magical by upgrading them at check in!

 

[BellsFam]

T



I'm sure it was a once in a lifetime chance that I passed up but I just couldn't do it.

It's called KARMA... The best thing is you put out some awesome karma by saying no and having awesome intentions on why... Start playing the lottery... I'd say you have something great coming to you in an even better way!!!

 

[Happy_2_B]

Do. Not. Tell. Your. Wife.

I agree with this 100%. Pixie dust is rare- and you were absolutely showered with it. I actually cannot believe I just read the post- and that it is real and not a joke. One poster mentioned that you did the right thing for you- but was it also the right thing for your wife? You are going as a couple, correct? And you turned down an upgrade of this magnitude at the GF without consulting her? On a trip to celebrate your 10th anniversary no less? Wow. I never turn down an upgrade- ever. One of the hardest lessons in life is to learn to receive, and do it graciously and gratefully. Giving is noble- yes- and that is exactly what Disney did- they gave without any expectations from you except a gracious 'thank you'. I still can't believe I actually just read this... Sorry- wish I could be more supportive, but I am a DH too and there is no way I would make a decision of this magnitude without consulting my DW and allowing her to have equal input in the decision. Happy anniversary BTW- I hope it's not your last...

 

[DekrRini]

I would have done the same thing. I travel alone so if I were offered a suite of any kind, I'd thank them for the offer and ask that they offer the upgrade to a family who could use the extra space. You're just passing along the pixie dust you received to someone else who will appreciate it just as much. Paying it forward so to speak which is something I try to do whenever I can.

 

[tjmw2727]

I understand your reasoning ...
but
I would have taken the upgrade - for a few reasons. They likely "needed" your room category as it is easier to book than the room you were offered. So they looked through the reservations to see who was celebrating something and would appreciate the upgrade so they offered it to you.

I also believe in Karma and when you are offered a gift I think you should say thank you, accept it and then pay it forward.

It happens when you travel often and have status with a resort. I always take the upgrade if I need it or not as it means the resort/hotel is close to selling out and they can sell a typical room at "rack rate" vs a specialty room that they can upgrade a good/value customer too and thus book both rooms.

I wish you the best on your trip!

 

[Frank4202]

You're a good man. A better man than me!

 

[bookgirl]

I would have taken the upgrade. I agree that they probably wanted your room type and looked for someone celebrating. I'm not saying that I would have taken any upgrade but this one with a theme park view, yeah I would have taken it.

Maybe your wife shares your views about things being just enough but you didn't even give her the chance to decide. Personally I would have been just as or even more upset for not being consulted, as I would have been disappointed on missing a great bit of pixie dust.

 

[Lisaloo]

You're a good man. A better man than me!

My husband would have showered me with the upgrade for an anniversary gift. I think that makes him the better man!
I don't understand why anyone would think this is noble. He didn't give anything to anyone. He turned down an awesome treat from disney, for reasons that don't really make sense to me.

 

[SoarinSC]

My wife and I are going to Disney next week to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. This is the first time we will be there without our children. I decided to splurge and book a club level room at the Grand Floridian. Well I just received a call from Disney. They wanted to upgrade our 1 bedroom king size room to a suite. One bedroom with a king bed, one with 2 queens, plus a living room and a partial MK view and I said NO thank you! I must be certifiable!!!!

I just felt guilty taking that upgrade and wasting all that space. Like I said it is only my wife and I. I told the gentlemen who called to give it to someone who could use it more that we can.

Please tell me someone else out there has done something this "stupid". Now, the real question is should I let my wife know what I did.

P.S. Thank you Disney for being so awesome. I really wished I could have used it.

OP, Would have done the same...DW and I are barely in our room so it would have been totally wasted on us!

 

[meggers628]

As a mom traveling to the GF next week with my 2 small children (and my husband, 3rd child?) I thank you! It's just nice to imagine anyway.

Have a great trip.

 

[5kidsmommy]

I've been married for 21 years, I would have killed my husband. Wow! Do not tell your wife.

 

[DisneyFive]

To each their own.

If you're happy with the decision, that's what matters.

Dan

 

[yeheyprincex2]

I've been married for 21 years, I would have killed my husband. Wow! Do not tell your wife.

I am going to have a conversation with my husband
"dear, if Disney ever calls and wants to up-grade us and I'm not available you say yes, its always yes"

 

[Magpie]

Wow... interesting responses!

It seems some folks think the op was ungrateful, possibly even harming (or at least thoughtlessly inconveniencing) the resort somehow by not freeing up the room he'd actually booked and paid for! Seriously, I can't imagine Disney won't be able to upgrade someone else.

Other folks think he should keep this like a shameful secret, never telling his wife. Isn't it possible she'd agree with his reasoning? I know my husband would (in fact I just asked him, confirming what I already knew). Even if I disagreed I can't imagine being angry about it, considering they've already booked club level at the GF! Really, how much more luxury do two people need?

People saying he needs to learn to accept gifts gracefully, like he'd somehow done something horribly rude and uncouth, and probably makes a habit of rejecting his birthday presents, if they aren't precisely what he asked for.

And comparing it to insisting on paying for free water or parking deliberately out of the way? How is that even remotely related? If anything, it's more like politely declining a refill on your soda, because you're no longer thirsty.

I generally expect drama and controversy on this board, but this one actually surprised me. Clearly it's a sensitive subject with some folks!

 

[Grandma G]

I think that your wife will consider it sweet that you thought that a lovely one-bedroom (king) suite at the Grand Floridian was 'just right' for the two of you on the occasion of your 10th Anniversary.

It is all of the other couples on your Best Friends and Family List who would have loved to help you celebrate - in a two-bedroom suite at Disney's premier hotel - that you'd better worry about ...

 

[Magpie]

I've been married for 21 years, I would have killed my husband. Wow! Do not tell your wife.

20 years here, and he's my best friend. I'd tell him, because I tell him everything, sooner or later. Fortunately, to quote my husband, "It would not have been a relationship-ending issue, no matter what."

I think we're probably each quite well suited to our partners.